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Thank you everyone for the advice. I realize now that I did make a mistake by even creating a rule where one person could name the baby based on gender. As silly as it sounds I really thought I was having a girl, so I didn't really think this sort of situation would come up. Prior to hearing everyone's remarks about it, I thought the name was yucky too, but I was willing to go with it. But since I've had my baby shower, and talked to other people, it seems that the mass consensus is that it just isn't a good name. That I need to name the baby something cute like Jace or Jacob or something. And honestly that is what I would prefer to name the baby. I told him tonight that I just wanted us to compromise--could we come up with lists and exchange names, and that it was important to me that we both like the name. But he got angry and pretty much said "no". He also was very offended. I wish my mom and dad would stay out of it as well, but at the same time I agree with them. The name Clarence is country. I just don't like it. I just don't know how to get him to at least agree to come up with a name we both can tolerate.
Although you guys made an arrangement, and normally I'd say you should uphold your end of the bargain - I can't imagine my husband actually forcing me to go with a name that I really really disliked. I just dont think he'd want me to be that unhappy about something that important. Nor me him, if the situation was reversed.
That was a crazy promise you made. I think this is something you should decide together, to your mutual satisfaction.
Otherwise, tell him he'll have to do all the disciplining, because there's no way you're going to yell "Clarence Lee, go to your room this instant" if the kid's in trouble.
A young mom at my church named her baby Virgel! Virgle? I don't know how to spell it, but you get the idea.
This reminds me, of all things, an episode of Desperate Housewives where Mike wanted to name the baby Maynard. Susan eventually saw how much it meant to him and went with it. They call him MJ.
Although you guys made an arrangement, and normally I'd say you should uphold your end of the bargain - I can't imagine my husband actually forcing me to go with a name that I really really disliked. I just dont think he'd want me to be that unhappy about something that important. Nor me him, if the situation was reversed.
That was a crazy promise you made. I think this is something you should decide together, to your mutual satisfaction.
Otherwise, tell him he'll have to do all the disciplining, because there's no way you're going to yell "Clarence Lee, go to your room this instant" if the kid's in trouble.
This is how I feel too. The fact that he doesn't care that I hate that name, bothers me. What makes it worse, is that in his extended family it is tradition to name the first boy after the dad. So I'm sure that has a lot to do with it as well. He is going around telling everyone this is what the baby's name is going to be, and I'm angry that he won't at least compromise or budge. It's not helping that I'm feeling the pressure from family and friends to not name the baby this name.
This is how I feel too. The fact that he doesn't care that I hate that name, bothers me. What makes it worse, is that in his extended family it is tradition to name the first boy after the dad. So I'm sure that has a lot to do with it as well. He is going around telling everyone this is what the baby's name is going to be, and I'm angry that he won't at least compromise or budge. It's not helping that I'm feeling the pressure from family and friends to not name the baby this name.
you are bothered that he doesn't care that you hate the name, but he is just as bothered that you don't care about the family tradition. Family traditions are hard to break. I'm not sure you should ask him to. This is a tough one.
My concern is that what my dad said about my son not being able to find jobs, may hold true. He said that names DO matter, and that employers would skip over my son's resume simply because his name sounds too country. I don't know if my dad was just saying that to get me not to name him that, or what. I guess I just need to know that this name is NOT that bad...
you are bothered that he doesn't care that you hate the name, but he is just as bothered that you don't care about the family tradition. Family traditions are hard to break. I'm not sure you should ask him to. This is a tough one.
I know. It's horrible, because all of his cousins, brothers etc named their son's after them. And I think he feels slighted that I'm not giving him the same opportunity. What makes it worse, is that currently we are doing an LDR until he relocates out here in two weeks(for his job) and so he's missed out a lot on the pregnancy and already feels "robbed" of that experience. I guess I just don't know what to do. I really just wish he'd at least be willing to compromise. And now I'm embarrassed to tell my parents, "Mom dad sorry I couldn't get him to compromise looks like the name will be Clarence" I know they are going to cringe--just like everyone else did at the babyshower.
My concern is that what my dad said about my son not being able to find jobs, may hold true. He said that names DO matter, and that employers would skip over my son's resume simply because his name sounds too country. I don't know if my dad was just saying that to get me not to name him that, or what. I guess I just need to know that this name is NOT that bad...
Clarence Lee does sound country to me. Clarence on it's own does not. Most people don't put their middle name on a resume so I don't think it's an issue. I kind of like the name Clarence. It's different but it's still a classic name that's been around forever.
Another suggestion: maybe your son's father will budge on the middle name, which you can call your son. If it starts with a J, like Clarence Jacob, that will give him the initials C.J., which are nice for a boy.
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He is going around telling everyone this is what the baby's name is going to be, and I'm angry that he won't at least compromise or budge. It's not helping that I'm feeling the pressure from family and friends to not name the baby this name.
I really just wish he'd at least be willing to compromise. And now I'm embarrassed to tell my parents, "Mom dad sorry I couldn't get him to compromise looks like the name will be Clarence" I know they are going to cringe--just like everyone else did at the babyshower.
