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First of all, those "friends" aren't always who they say they are. Secondly, they know which stores your daughter shops in and they even know what car she's driving. Why? Because she's posted all of that on FB
All of the friends on their accounts are students from their school, kids they know from activities, etc. They don't have people on their facebook they don't know personally.
First of all, those "friends" aren't always who they say they are. Secondly, they know which stores your daughter shops in and they even know what car she's driving. Why? Because she's posted all of that on FB
And, again, we would have to have someone out there that is "out to get" my DD to start with.
People spend WAY too much time with the "what if's". The what-if's are just not going to happen. They are a product of your imagination and nothing more. Like I said earlier, we have 3 teens that have been on facebook for over 5 years and have NEVER had an issue, nor have ANY of their friends. I am sure there are stupid kids out there that do friend anyone and everyone and put themselves in potential danger, but most do not.
I just checked DD's facbook-the last time she posted anything was on Saturday at 12;30pm...our younger DS last posted something on Sept 13th, and our older son late last night...yeah, I'm worried about a potential stalking tracking them down...
All of the friends on their accounts are students from their school, kids they know from activities, etc. They don't have people on their facebook they don't know personally.
I'm not trying to give you a hard time, golfgal - but how could your child possibly *personally* know 1280 people? She may know of them. She may have even very briefly met all of these kids - sat in the same class, etc.
But she probably has not personally met all of these kids' parents and, yet, some of those parents may very well have visited your daughter's FB page, posted comments, whatever. As nice and as well meaning as these people may be, they are still strangers...
If a parent knows about FaceBook, and does not guide her children on how to use it safely, whose fault is that? It's like a parent refusing to have electricity or running water, because she can't instruct or advise her unruly, incorrigible, ineducable children about the dangers of electrocution or drowning.
I'm not trying to give you a hard time, golfgal - but how could your child possibly *personally* know 1280 people? She may know of them. She may have even very briefly met all of these kids - sat in the same class, etc.
But she probably has not personally met all of these kids' parents and, yet, some of those parents may very well have visited your daughter's FB page, posted comments, whatever. As nice and as well meaning as these people may be, they are still strangers...
First, the 1280 number was just a random number thrown out there. I looked it up and she has 811 friends on facebook right now. Yes, some of them are people she has "met" through other friends and not all of them are 'close' friends by any means (she has the cousins of a few friends on there that she does things with when they come to visit for example). It's pretty easy for a high school kid to have that many friends that they know. There are 185 kids in their marching band, over the past 3 years, roughly 50 or so kids graduating each year and 50 or so new kids joining each year-she knows all of these kids VERY well. Her golf team over the past 5 years accounts for probably another 100 kids through the years, including the kids from the other teams that she has gotten to know over the years, Kids from church that go to different schools that she goes to religion classes with-another probably 20 or 30 kids. Then, we moved when she was in 6th grade from a town where she knew everyone in her class, so another 60 kids there plus all of the kids from the other classes she knew, add another 150 kids or so there.....that is getting close to 700 kids even without her CURRENT classmates. She has a few parents of friends on her list, add in a few relatives, etc. and it is very easy to know 800 kids.
I'm not trying to give you a hard time, golfgal - but how could your child possibly *personally* know 1280 people? She may know of them. She may have even very briefly met all of these kids - sat in the same class, etc.
But she probably has not personally met all of these kids' parents and, yet, some of those parents may very well have visited your daughter's FB page, posted comments, whatever. As nice and as well meaning as these people may be, they are still strangers...
Who cares?!
Kids interact with strangers so much in their lives. Teachers they will never have at school are strangers and will remain that way. PTO parents and others that kids will have daily interaction with but never truly "know".
I agree with golfgal. You are putting too much emphasis on minutiae.
If a parent knows about FaceBook, and does not guide her children on how to use it safely, whose fault is that? It's like a parent refusing to have electricity or running water, because she can't instruct or advise her unruly, incorrigible, ineducable children about the dangers of electrocution or drowning.
Yes. I do think that being aware of the potential dangers and safeguarding your kids is important. I'm not anti FB at all - it serves a useful purpose. But I do see the need for some caution with regards to what exactly is being shared.
Kids interact with strangers so much in their lives. Teachers they will never have at school are strangers and will remain that way. PTO parents and others that kids will have daily interaction with but never truly "know".
I agree with golfgal. You are putting too much emphasis on minutiae.
That's true. But when my kids talk to a random teacher or a volunteer helping out in the school, there are plenty of other people around. Plus, my kids can actually see who they are talking to. And the person they are talking to is accountable for what they say to my kid.
On FB, your child might think she is talking to Suzy but she might actually be talking to Suzy's mom or (?). Maybe that's a big deal and maybe it's not.
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