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Which is why I say appearance matters. It doesn't define a person but it matters. If I am going to my son's football game I don't need to be dressed in heels and a skirt, but I still need to be dressed appropriately. People who do not know you have no other way to judge you other than by your appearance. Appearance matters. It isn't everything but it is something.
Can you quantify or qualify what or why it matters?
But the truth is that we have to let our kids "go" and "be true to themselves." (Even if they adopt a lifestyle and ways that seem foreign to us and our image of who we'd like them to be!)
As long as it is within the budget! Or on their dime.
A lot of my clothes and possessions probably "say" (or tell others) that I'm a person who likes to enjoy and "bond" with the things I already have...I'm not into buying "new models" and "upgrades"all the time. I like to be "aware" of "new things" that come out on the market. (New clothing styles, new electronic gadgets, new appliances etc.) But I don't feel an urge to rush right out and buy every "new thing "myself!
Appearance doesn't always have to be about being up to the minute in style. It has to do with being appropriate to the occasion. People dress differently when they go to a wedding than they do when they go to the beach. A person can be wearing 100% stylish clothing and be dressed inappropriately. Another person can be wearing older clothing and still be dressed appropriately.
When I go to the grocery store I wear jeans and a clean top. I may not have any makeup on my face. When I go in to school to see my son's teacher I will probably dress in nicer pants and put on some makeup. If I am going to a wedding in the evening I will wear a dress and heels and more elaborate makeup. My jeans might be "up to the minute" and my dress might be a classic dress that I have had for 15 years. It isn't the newness that makes the jean inappropriate for an evening wedding.
Appropriate dress and appearance does matter. It shouldn't be an obsession but it matters. A person does not have to be obsessed with style to look appropriate for an occasion.
From my perpective I feel "freer" to pay attention to the world around me because I'm not consumed with having to buy (and shop for) all of the latest things!...As I mentioned in an earlier post I like to pay attention to "what's new!" It's interesting! I admire creativity and artistry and ingenuity etc. But I just don't feel an urge to rush right out and buy every "new thing" myself! In other words I don't have to make everything "my own" if this makes sense.
Is anyone reading my posts? Or are they reading them and putting their own words & thoughts into them? I have stated several times that I am NOT talking about the latest styles!!!
Which is why I say appearance matters. It doesn't define a person but it matters. If I am going to my son's football game I don't need to be dressed in heels and a skirt, but I still need to be dressed appropriately. People who do not know you have no other way to judge you other than by your appearance. Appearance matters. It isn't everything but it is something.
Appropriate dress and appearance does matter. It shouldn't be an obsession but it matters. A person does not have to be obsessed with style to look appropriate for an occasion.
WHY does it matter? That is what I am asking you to articulate. What does it matter that the check out person at the grocery store is a man dressed like a very dressed up woman? My groceries still wound up paid for. Why does it matter that the young women in the grocery store were dressed like underpaid hookers? They still got their groceries. Why does it matter that one of the guests at a recent wedding was wearing a pair of jeans? It did not bother the bride and groom, and they still wound up married.
So I am wondering WHY does it matter?
It matters to me only when it is a matter of my self interest or a matter of courtesy. For example it is in my best interest to dress in a manner to advance me at work. It is courteous to dress appropriately to a wedding in case the bride would object....
It matters because we are social beings. Social beings do judge others of their species on appearance. It's the way we are wired.
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Or on their dime.
