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Old 11-29-2011, 06:00 PM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Ohh, I have tried that a million times and she dramatically falls to the floor screaming!
At 12 years old, she throws herself on the floor screaming!!!!!???? Are you kidding me!? What do YOU do? If she doesn't have any clinical issues, she'd do that ONCE. She would then be warned to grow up and act her age or I'd be removing items from her posession which are age inappropriate for 2-3 year olds. That WOULD be the final warning. She would then be treated like a 2-3 year old until she corrected her behavior.
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:11 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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Why is she getting things like a new iPod if she is throwing temper tantrums and terrorizing her siblings? Even the majority of people with mental disorders are still perfectly capable of knowing right from wrong.
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:29 PM
 
Location: AZ
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Why is she getting things like a new iPod if she is throwing temper tantrums and terrorizing her siblings? Even the majority of people with mental disorders are still perfectly capable of knowing right from wrong.
the ipod was a gift for her birthday from her grandma..
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Stuck in NE GA right now
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HORMONES...take her to her Doc and see if he can give her something to dial it down abit...some girls and woman have HUGE mood swings with puberty and "the change".
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:34 PM
 
Location: AZ
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I am so sorry. It sounds like this is possibly more than teenaged hormones.

Was this child a collicky baby? Has she been known to pitch "tantrums" or cry uncontrollably as a toddler when she didn't get her own way?

I ask these things b/c psychologists are now saying that often, bipolar children showed these kinds of behaviors - and things escalate during adolescence.

The good thing is - a counselor may be able to figure out what is going on and give you all some good coping skills and help your daughter set goals for herself w/ self control. In addition, if she is exhibiting bipolar symptoms, this would be the time to start working on a regimen so she can stay more evened out w/ her ups and downs.

I don't think I would put things off if it has gotten this difficult for the rest of your kids. They should not have to lock their doors and be concerned with phone calls to the police b/c of her out of control behavior.

I have a bipolar sister who was not diagnosed til late in life. Your daughter sounds very much like her and the biggest mistake my parents made was that we all were to try to de-escalate things with her and "keep her from getting upset." That shifted responsibility to us rather than making her responsible for recognizing and controlling her own behavior.

Of course, we are all doing arm-chair diagnoses here, lol - so perhaps this is just a passing phase. But hearing about your family being terrorized at times by your daughter's behaviors makes me want to encourage you to see if there is something more to all this.

Don't get discouraged. This is definitely something that can be addressed, explored and managed!

PS> My sister was a gifted student through high school and graduated suma c um laude from college. She made us all pretty miserable, even tho she excelled at school. I only wish she could have gotten some help at an earlier age - she would have been so much happier and our family would have been much happier, as well. When in an "up" phase, she was sunshine and light.
This is really what worries me--the bi-polar possibility I was actually diagnosed with it, and I was adopted, but met my BIO family and they are all diagnosed bi-polar.. My bio-sis is actually on disability for her bi-polar..
Yes, my daughter was VERY emotional as a toddler with outbursts and biting issues.. She actually got a million times better when she started school, and was an "angel" until just recently..I'm wondering if maybe the hormonal changes have triggered this new extreme behavior..
Thank you for your input !!
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:36 PM
 
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HORMONES...take her to her Doc and see if he can give her something to dial it down abit...some girls and woman have HUGE mood swings with puberty and "the change".
I agree!!
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:42 PM
 
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I agree with the poster that said this sounds like more than teenage drama queen behavior. At 12, I could see pouting, slamming doors, bursting into tears every now and then. But throwing herself on the floor screaming, scaring her siblings to death, cussing and threatening people...and with a family history of bi-polar, that would be my first thought. Of course, it may be just puberty...way overboard, but maybe she'll get through it. Either way, if it were my kid, I would take her to the doctor just to rule everything else out.

Good luck...sounds like your family is going through a lot.
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:44 PM
 
Location: AZ
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At 12 years old, she throws herself on the floor screaming!!!!!???? Are you kidding me!? What do YOU do? If she doesn't have any clinical issues, she'd do that ONCE. She would then be warned to grow up and act her age or I'd be removing items from her posession which are age inappropriate for 2-3 year olds. That WOULD be the final warning. She would then be treated like a 2-3 year old until she corrected her behavior.
I know I know, thats why I threw this out there..I am still shocked at the behavior and it happened 2 weeks ago.. I mean throwing herself on the floor.. I havent dealt with anything like this and never expected this behavior from any of my kids.
I have never used corporal punishment and dont believe in it (I was beat so I do not believe in it)..but I have already threatened to take away the Ipod that she got from her grandma yesterday..and Im about to leave for class and if she acts out while Im gone, I will take it away..
She isnt always like this..she is very well behaved half of the time at home and always when not at home..Come to think of it, when she gets really upset she throws up also..
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:59 PM
 
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Come to think of it, when she gets really upset she throws up also..
Here's the test:

When she throws up have you seen the vomit come out of her mouth? (Without her sticking her finger down her throat.)Is she standing in the living room, or wherever, vomiting onto the rug?

Or does she go into the bathroom and then come out and tell you she's thrown up?
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Old 11-29-2011, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Western Washington
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I know I know, thats why I threw this out there..I am still shocked at the behavior and it happened 2 weeks ago.. I mean throwing herself on the floor.. I havent dealt with anything like this and never expected this behavior from any of my kids.
I have never used corporal punishment and dont believe in it (I was beat so I do not believe in it)..but I have already threatened to take away the Ipod that she got from her grandma yesterday..and Im about to leave for class and if she acts out while Im gone, I will take it away..
She isnt always like this..she is very well behaved half of the time at home and always when not at home..Come to think of it, when she gets really upset she throws up also..
Lucia, it really sounds like she's going to have to get a professional evaluation. Also, please get a calendar and start documenting her highs and lows, find out if there is a pattern here. Pay close attention to what she's eating as well, in order to have plenty of information to share with her doctor. She could have food and/or dye sensitivities. With your family's bipolar diagnoses, it is also very possible that she has inherited the condition. Good luck to you...how frustrating. Also, as Dew pointed out, make sure that this vomiting is really occurring. Getting herself worked up to a frenzy can cause this to happen, but I'd be watching that carefully as well. Some children do fake throwing up. It's a control thing.
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