The long term effects of spanking and slapping

[Ringo1]

Originally Posted by no kudzu

We taught our children to clasp their hands behind their backs when we went into stores. I encouraged them to talk to me about things they saw and if needed I would pick the item up and let them see or touch it before we put it in our cart or most of the time back on the shelf. So many compliments on my kid's behavior I lost count.

I owned a retail business once and suffered the losses caused by undisciplined kids. never once "whooped" my kids and none of them EVER in trouble with law or police or any authority figure.

There are plenty of ways to let your kids know you "mean business" without hitting them. A very small mind resorts to the easy way out by hitting. It takes a bit of time, patience and imagination to correctly discipline and punish kids.

I agree with everything you just said.

[djacques]

Originally Posted by Vic 2.0

I'm not saying they weren't misbehaving now and then. I'm sure they all acted up; they were 1 year olds! The point is, they were not misbehaving any more than the children who weren't going to be spanked.

I doubt that, and the article doesn't say that.

[Vic 2.0]

Originally Posted by Vic 2.0

I'm not saying they weren't misbehaving now and then. I'm sure they all acted up; they were 1 year olds! The point is, they were not misbehaving any more than the children who weren't going to be spanked.

Originally Posted by djacques

I doubt that, and the article doesn't say that.

Why, yes it does!

"Were these kids getting spanked because they were more aggressive or slow to begin with? It doesn’t seem so. Neither aggressive behavior problems nor lower developmental scores predicted increases in spanking over time."

This means there were no such differences between the two groups of children along these lines beforehand. Both the factors of aggressive behavior and developmental scores started out equal in both groups. Two years later, the children who had been spanked showed more aggression and less mental development.

[totsuka]

My father was pretty brutal and I still resent that aspect of growing up. I never did anything seriously wrong, but that is how he was. I don't do that and can't understand parents that do it.