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Situation--18 yrs boy school drop out, decides to goes to Technical school, dad pays for tuition, moves him there and provides him with a car. Doesn't make the cut at school--drop out again. Doesn't return fathers calls (about 20). When he finally does he tells his father is didn't go to school but is now attending the community college where his mother lives. Still driving our car and we are still paying for insurance.
I believe we should take the car and he can figure it out since he didn't abide by the rules. He continues to do this. This is definitely not the first time he has taken advantage of his father or myself. Thoughts as to what we should do?
I would make keeping the car conditional on either being in school or working full time. But, since this appears to be a divorce situation based on your OP, it would be best to let the parents handle it if possible.
I would make keeping the car conditional on either being in school or working full time. But, since this appears to be a divorce situation based on your OP, it would be best to let the parents handle it if possible.
Agreed and also maybe change your perspective, an 18yr old is a man not a boy and should act like one.
The young man basically made a contract and broke the contract. There is no reason to continue to reward him for not complying. You should get the car back. I might even check with my insurance company and strike his name form my policy - force him to buy his own insurance. These are reasonable expectations for a young adult male.
We are tallking about a person's education and future here. An 18 year old is still typically very immature, and then you add divorced parents into the mix . . . I find it hard to believe that it was ok to provide a car as long as son was attending school x but now that son is attending school z, suddenly providing a car is indulging him. Hmmm.
Sounds to me like father and stepmom of said son are just angry that son is living with bio mom.
The point is to get the son educated. He screwed up. He obviously felt he could not discuss the situation with his father and stepmother or he would not have avoided them and then figured out a new plan for attending a different school. So it isn't as tho the kid ran off to Mexico and stole the car; he is with his mother and he is still attending college - and perhaps, will be successful in this new school and environment.
I hope this is not just the preliminary to dad and stepmom finding an excuse to justify no longer helping son get an education so they don't have to spend the $$$ to help him.
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