Using Child as Pawn (party, custody, legal, safety)
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My spouse and I recently broke up over the weekend. He was cheating on me. When I found out he beat me up and when I called the police he told them I hit him too and the police said if they arrest him they have to arrest me too. So he moved out but broke EVERYTHING in the process. My crockpot, microwave, tv, kindle, put holes in the wall ect.
I wanna hurt him, emotionally that is. The only thing I have over him is our 7 month old daughter. I told him if he wants to see her take me to court, am I wrong for this?
Using a child as a pawn is never right. By your admission, you want to use her for revenge. You need legal help, as in a lawyer or a mediator, not internet opinions.
Btw, if he paid for the things he broke, or they were jointly owned, he may have been entitled to do what he wanted with them. A child is not a possession.
Yes, He has a right to see her, and help raise her. Doing what you are suggesting will hurt you in court. He can go to court, and show you will not let him see her, the court can order it. If you don't comply you are now in contempt of court, and be Sanctions (Fines, Jail time, Paying his court/legal bills).
Try to work out a way for him to see her thru meeting with a 3rd party transfer.
My spouse and I recently broke up over the weekend. He was cheating on me. When I found out he beat me up and when I called the police he told them I hit him too and the police said if they arrest him they have to arrest me too. So he moved out but broke EVERYTHING in the process. My crockpot, microwave, tv, kindle, put holes in the wall ect.
I wanna hurt him, emotionally that is. The only thing I have over him is our 7 month old daughter. I told him if he wants to see her take me to court, am I wrong for this?
If this is for real () then you know how wrong it would be to do that.
Get some professional help (if you are for real and even if you are not).
Ummm if you got beat up and had bruises then they would not arrest you just because he claimed it.
Well they came right after it happened, not enough time for bruises. They did feel the knot on my head and the one officer wanted to arrest but the other said that they would arrest us both.
If you are concerned for your daughter's safety, as it sounds like you should be, I think you are justified in getting a restraining order and going through the courts to arrange custody.
If you are withholding his child and making him take you to court in order to be spiteful, then your head is in the wrong place.
Well they came right after it happened, not enough time for bruises. They did feel the knot on my head and the one officer wanted to arrest but the other said that they would arrest us both.
An arrest is not a conviction and you were stupid not to go along with it. It would not have taken long to sort out that he was lying and that you had physical evidence of abuse.
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) then you know how wrong it would be to do that.
