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Old 02-29-2012, 02:29 PM
 
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I saw something on the news tonight that I found disturbing.

The story featured a company that brings out a German Shepard that will go through your home and your cars if you suspect your child is using drugs and has drugs in the house.

It didn't say what happens if drugs our found. Are the police called?

Or if no drugs are found I would think you have really damaged your relationship with your child.

Seemed very extreme to me.
Why is it extreme for parents to want to know if their child is doing drugs and bringing them home? Afterall, it is the parents home and they are both legally and morally liable for what goes on in their home.

I think it is an excellent idea. Maybe I should train my dog and start such a business!
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Old 02-29-2012, 02:39 PM
 
Location: North America
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Sounds a bit over the wall to me. Kids are not to bright usually and it's not to hard to suspect.
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Old 02-29-2012, 04:18 PM
 
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I think a parent who feels the need to take that step has an inkling that it is necessary. Children on drugs don't deserve parental trust. Support, if warranted, but not trust.

I only recently have had experience in this matter, as two of my friends are dealing with kids in rehab. My views on the privacy issue have changed completely. These parents are trying to save their children, and that goal takes precedence over the privacy of the kids.
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Old 02-29-2012, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I think a parent who feels the need to take that step has an inkling that it is necessary. Children on drugs don't deserve parental trust. Support, if warranted, but not trust.

I only recently have had experience in this matter, as two of my friends are dealing with kids in rehab. My views on the privacy issue have changed completely. These parents are trying to save their children, and that goal takes precedence over the privacy of the kids.
I can understand where you are coming from. I think I would go with random drug testing before a drug sniffing dog, though, purely from an escalation point of view.
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Old 02-29-2012, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Jersey
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I think a parent who feels the need to take that step has an inkling that it is necessary. Children on drugs don't deserve parental trust. Support, if warranted, but not trust.

I only recently have had experience in this matter, as two of my friends are dealing with kids in rehab. My views on the privacy issue have changed completely. These parents are trying to save their children, and that goal takes precedence over the privacy of the kids.
I think having a suspicion and actually having reason are two different things. Kids are stupid and sometimes we as parents are too. Those little "are your kids on drugs" websites say things like
-kids are argumentative (what kid isnt?)
-they sleep a lot (again, who doesnt?)
-they are antisocial (with your parents?big surprise)
-grades drop (perhaps an underlying problem?)

any of these gems could make a parent suspicious without any actual evidence or really anything to actually justify suspicion. But bringing in a drug sniffing dog? If it doesnt find anything and your already moody, sullen withdrawn molly is not suddenly way more sullen then usual. You have completely lost her trust or respect. For nothing.
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Old 02-29-2012, 04:56 PM
 
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(Disclaimer- I am not a parent, but have worked in substance abuse) Please remember that only some drugs can be sniffed, and not the majority that teens use. I don't think oxycontin and similar prescription drugs can be sniffed, although I do think heroin can be, and cocaine. Don't forget about "huffing," that can be (very dangerously) done with any computer dusting spray can.
I think marijuana is the least of anyone's worries, and that is most likely to be sniffed out.

I saw a hand-written sign in a tiny pharmacy in southern Utah- "Drug testing kits available here:
cocaine, heroin, methamphetamine"
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Old 02-29-2012, 04:59 PM
 
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Pills can be sniffed out but only by specially trained dogs and most dogs arent trained for those.
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Old 02-29-2012, 11:03 PM
 
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I think having a suspicion and actually having reason are two different things. Kids are stupid and sometimes we as parents are too. Those little "are your kids on drugs" websites say things like
-kids are argumentative (what kid isnt?)
-they sleep a lot (again, who doesnt?)
-they are antisocial (with your parents?big surprise)
-grades drop (perhaps an underlying problem?)

any of these gems could make a parent suspicious without any actual evidence or really anything to actually justify suspicion. But bringing in a drug sniffing dog? If it doesnt find anything and your already moody, sullen withdrawn molly is not suddenly way more sullen then usual. You have completely lost her trust or respect. For nothing.
Exactly, you bring in a drug sniffing dog and you're wrong, you have just built a wall that isn't coming down.
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Old 02-29-2012, 11:08 PM
 
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Why is it extreme for parents to want to know if their child is doing drugs and bringing them home? Afterall, it is the parents home and they are both legally and morally liable for what goes on in their home.

I think it is an excellent idea. Maybe I should train my dog and start such a business!
There are other ways to go about this. As another poster said teens aren't the brightest people. Search their room, monitor their behavior.

Seems like a very lazy/over the top way to take care of something that the parents should be doing.

This can be done without bringing in the Gestapo.
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Old 03-01-2012, 04:23 AM
 
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There are other ways to go about this. As another poster said teens aren't the brightest people. Search their room, monitor their behavior.

Seems like a very lazy/over the top way to take care of something that the parents should be doing.

This can be done without bringing in the Gestapo.
Jawohl!
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