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I can understand the OP's feelings very well. She was not offended the nurse thought her child would be AA. She was offended that the nurse made an extremely insensitive, rude and ignorant comment. --and in front of her child.
I definitely would discuss this with the doctor. After all, this is his/her business and things like this can affect their livelihood.
We are white, had a 2.5 y.o. biological son when we adopted a baby girl from Korea. This was 29 years ago in the deep south. You cannot imagine the incredibly rude and insensitive comments strangers felt compelled to make. Like seeing the three of us in the grocery story and asking "Are they both adopted?" or seeing me alone with my daughter and saying "She must look like her father" . Most of the time I ignored the a##holes but a few times I let them have it with "What gives you the right to come ask me such a personal question which is none of your business?" I think I threw that at somebody who asked me "How much did she cost?"
I honestly think we are doing such people a huge favor by letting them know such intrusions into our privacy are rude and unwelcomed. It just might keep them from getting their head knocked in by the next person they question.
you have hit the nail right on the head this is excatly what i was meaning!!
That was very unprofessional of the nurse. I do have to say that I was surprised recently by the name of a new student at my daughter's school. Her name is Leticia and she is Caucasian. I just assumed she was African-American when my daughter first mentioned the name. But I would have never told Leticia's mom, "Oh, I thought you guys must be African-American"....
Exactly. Everyone is thinking but most have the sense to not say it.
Call the doctor? Really? The time to say something would have been when it happened, to the nurse. She made an assumption, and she was wrong. She most likely won't make that mistake again. I would have said "It's a traditional Indian name, that means "Completely Free" (thanks Google). We think it suits her".
That was very unprofessional of the nurse. I do have to say that I was surprised recently by the name of a new student at my daughter's school. Her name is Leticia and she is Caucasian. I just assumed she was African-American when my daughter first mentioned the name. But I would have never told Leticia's mom, "Oh, I thought you guys must be African-American"....
I went to school with a Leticia and she was white.
I've had several people ask me if my kids have different fathers, because my oldest looks hispanic, like her dad, and my youngest is very pale and freckled with light brown hair. Even some of my FIL's friends have asked me that.
I've got another one for you all. I was picking my daughter up from school one day and a teacher said, "Lena your Grandma is here" I was like, what the he**! I am an older Mom but honestly I don't think I look like her Grandmother. My daughter was like, "that's my Mom not my Grandma". I am a firm believer that if you aren't sure, don't say anything at all.
Unless the OP eloborates on exactly what people say, hard to tell. If the comment was phrased like, "What a strange name to give to a white child," I would be a bit pissed. I've learned never to assume anything when it comes to names, races, etc and better to not say anything. Just as you never ask a woman you don't know, "When are you expecting."
My husband is blessed with a rather unfortunate name---both first name and last name are nicknames for male body parts and he has been the subject of some rather rude comments from strangers.
Now I'm dying to know your husband's name!
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What an ignorant thing to say.
