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But some people think just having a close relationship with his mother makes him a mamas boy. so not true.
I haven't heard anybody make that connection. Mama's boys and daddy's girls seem to be their own dysfunctional subset. This ties in with imcurious's thread about kids' growing up and finding someone else to be the center of their universes. Sure, that can be a melancholy time for a parent, but a parent should not come before a spouse in a healthy adult relationship. A mama's boy or daddy's girl doesn't redirect focus, and all kinds of friction ensues.
My husband does not have a close relationship with his mother, although I would be happy for him if that were possible. I would NOT marry a mama's boy ... no way.
When i think of mamas boy i think of someone who generally has an overbearing mother who feels her boy can do no wrong, lives with her until the age of 40, and never really grows up.
If we leave out the dysfunctional "mamma's-boy" that is not able to separate his relationship with his mother and the rest of the world especially other females(Norman Bates type), if we stick to those that have a healthy loving respectful relationship with his mother, then THOSE will almost always make better partners and husbands. Think about it, a man usually treats other females how he treats his mother.
As others have mentioned I think that the term mama's boy needs some definition. If you define a mama's boy as a man that has an attachement to his mother that is the number one priority in his life then being a mama's boy is not a good thing. However, if you define a mama's boy as a man that has a close, warm, loving relationship with his mother then I don't think this is a bad thing.
Being a mama's boy does not have to mean that a man has a dysfunctional relationship with his mother.
OH, I have ~ many times. Although most little boys love their Mama's ~ people go all crazy if they think you are too close - even when he is like 2 years old.
So many people advised me not to turn him into a so-called "Mamas Boy".
Really, it was irritating. My one know-it-all girlfriend (never went to college; never went anywhere but knows everything about everything) once told me that 'he'll never leave home'. This is when he was about 4. And she was quite confident when she said it - as she always is.
Well, guess what? Mine will be leaving for college and her daughter refuses to leave the nest.
It's ridiculous the sterotypes that are put on little boys simply for loving their Mother's.
GF's see coaching by mama a threat. they are right. w/o it most guys are a blind pig being led to market. mama is not in love with your GF and will see things a bit differently than u will. listen to your mama she knows women, she is one. carmen jovet says all mothers should coach their sons to get a prenup. now why would a TV star middle aged mother say something like that?
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