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There shouldn't be dating in 7th grade imo. Parents need to only allow group situations until much older...H.S. sophomore or older imo. Educate your children as to what is acceptable behavior...and the most critical piece of parenting is keep the communication open.....model good choices for your children. Don't always have the prent type discussion...sometimes just do things w/ your child....even if it isn't something you would like to do....make sure they know how much you love them, and care about them. That is their best defense in any situation....it will be in their minds at that critical moment...My Mom /Dad loves me, I can go to them w/ this problem.
The 'survey' pretty much admitted that most "relationships" or "dating" at the age consists of group dating situations or very short lived "relationships" that don't go beyond sitting together at lunch or being "in a relationship" on Facebook. It also went on to state that these relationships are more or less based on exploring and developing the social dynamics as practice for more serious relationships as they get older. Basically, not much has changed in terms of what it means to be in 7th grade and "dating".
There shouldn't be dating in 7th grade imo. Parents need to only allow group situations until much older...H.S. sophomore or older imo. Educate your children as to what is acceptable behavior...and the most critical piece of parenting is keep the communication open.....model good choices for your children. Don't always have the prent type discussion...sometimes just do things w/ your child....even if it isn't something you would like to do....make sure they know how much you love them, and care about them. That is their best defense in any situation....it will be in their minds at that critical moment...My Mom /Dad loves me, I can go to them w/ this problem.
Yes, children that young are far far too young to be "dating" which is often a euphemism for having sex. Where are their parents?
Very likely the parents who allow 11 years olds to date are not paying attention or think themselves that having a boyfriend is of utmost importance and inadvertantly teach their daughters that they must keep a guy around no matter what they have to do -- so no surprise that the daughters would take abuse.
That's just insane! What in the world are 12 year old children doing dating!? What is wrong with these parents that they ALLOW their 12 yr olds to have those types of relationships at that age. It's irresponsible parenting!
sad to say plenty of 7th graders are/were having oral sex in the bathrooms and anywhere else i could guess. and this was in an affluent parent involved community. for all i knew the parents did not allow 'dating' didn't mean the kids wouldn't find a way to do what they wanted.
so why wouldn't dating violence be around?
we have really messed up with out children. with the best of intentions
Whose kids DATE in the 7th grade? The whole thing is ridiculous. Who funded this study?
Anyone who is allowing their kids to date at this young age has more problems going on in the household than their 7th grader's potential for relationship violence.
I just looked up the survey... It has a VERY small sample size of 1,430 7th graders. Without digging to deep, one has to wonder about the statically value of the study and its results.
My local school distinct has almost 3000 in 7th grade, so what kind of sample did they get.
That's just insane! What in the world are 12 year old children doing dating!? What is wrong with these parents that they ALLOW their 12 yr olds to have those types of relationships at that age. It's irresponsible parenting!
Interesting how many chose to basically ignore the actual topic and resort to the easy out (7th graders shouldn't be dating).
I got news for you all - middle schoolers do date whether you want them to or not. They 'date' at school. They 'date' at the mall. They 'date' at friends' houses. They 'date' at the neighborhood playground. They 'date' at sports events and at birthday parties.
And, in a world where some alarming number of middle and high school girls believe that Rhianna 'must have done something to make Chris Brown hit her,' violence is a very real experience and one that they will see on a much too regular basis among their peer group.
Hiding behind 'but they are too young' is not going to make this any less true.
There shouldn't be dating in 7th grade imo. Parents need to only allow group situations until much older...H.S. sophomore or older imo. Educate your children as to what is acceptable behavior...and the most critical piece of parenting is keep the communication open.....model good choices for your children. Don't always have the prent type discussion...sometimes just do things w/ your child....even if it isn't something you would like to do....make sure they know how much you love them, and care about them. That is their best defense in any situation....it will be in their minds at that critical moment...My Mom /Dad loves me, I can go to them w/ this problem.
Well, NJGOAT apparently took the time to read the survey and this is the defintion of dating:
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Originally Posted by NJGOAT
The 'survey' pretty much admitted that most "relationships" or "dating" at the age consists of group dating situations or very short lived "relationships" that don't go beyond sitting together at lunch or being "in a relationship" on Facebook. It also went on to state that these relationships are more or less based on exploring and developing the social dynamics as practice for more serious relationships as they get older. Basically, not much has changed in terms of what it means to be in 7th grade and "dating".
Except for the Facebook part, it's pretty much the same as when I was in 7th grade in 1961. Since I didn't "date" until much later, I don't know if DV was prevalent when I was in 7th gr, but it wouldn't surprise me any, if, of the "dating" couples, violence happened.
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