"Stop touching your penis" (kid, mom, problem, best)
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How many times a day should I have to say to my 4 year old to leave your penis alone. I dont know what else to do. Im so completely frustrated!
He constantly has his hands in his pants and plays with it. Any time he can he takes his pants off so he can get to it easier. I have tried telling him that he cant do that at school and they will make him go home, since he starts school in the fall and is really excited. I have tried saying "does daddy always touch his penis?" since he always wants to be like daddy. I have tried punishing him. I have tried telling him that gentlemen/little boys/ big boys etc dont play with it. I have told him its for going potty and unless there is a problem or he is going to the bathroom, he shouldnt be touching it.
I know that curiosity is normal for little boys and "if it feels good, do it", its also rude and impolite for him to always be touching it. What can i do!?!
Probably the worst thing you can do is make it the big deal you are making it. Does he have a rash?? Tell him oh, you must have a rash....lets put diaper ointment on you. He'll probably run....but say that ever time...Get some desitin, that thick white stuff, and coat him up...He will probably hate it enough to start thinking he shouldn't do it. Or, threaten diapers....Cause he must have to go to the bathroom every time??? Get the picture. He is 4, He will not want to be thought of as a baby.
"Teen age boy stuff",starts at about nine years old. Oh, you have SO much to look forward to....time to get that "nanny lock" on the Internet. The irony is that my kids went to the library to look at porn, no censoring there....they figure that out quick.
Probably the worst thing you can do is make it the big deal you are making it. Does he have a rash?? Tell him oh, you must have a rash....lets put diaper ointment on you. He'll probably run....but say that ever time...Get some desitin, that thick white stuff, and coat him up...He will probably hate it enough to start thinking he shouldn't do it. Or, threaten diapers....Cause he must have to go to the bathroom every time??? Get the picture. He is 4, He will not want to be thought of as a baby.
Yeah that doesnt work on him. He doesnt care. It only stops him as long as the action. Then he forgets and does it again. I try and use that tactic with putting things in his mouth, because only babies put things in their mouth. He says no im not a baby. Then the next day there is another penny in his mouth
And I want to teach him it isnt polite to play with it around people, but I dont want him to think touching it is a bad thing. It is a horrible worse case scenario but in my child psych class we learned about a case where a woman told her son from the time he was an infant that touching it would make it fall off and he would get sick. So until the day he died a virgin he only touched it in the shower to prevent infection. He would take his pants off and pee without touching it. He never got married or masturbated. Im dont want to do that to my child.
Yeah that doesnt work on him. He doesnt care. It only stops him as long as the action. Then he forgets and does it again. I try and use that tactic with putting things in his mouth, because only babies put things in their mouth. He says no im not a baby. Then the next day there is another penny in his mouth
And I want to teach him it isnt polite to play with it around people, but I dont want him to think touching it is a bad thing. It is a horrible worse case scenario but in my child psych class we learned about a case where a woman told her son from the time he was an infant that touching it would make it fall off and he would get sick. So until the day he died a virgin he only touched it in the shower to prevent infection. He would take his pants off and pee without touching it. He never got married or masturbated. Im dont want to do that to my child.
I was a very literal child and I could see myself buying that and being afraid...probably not until I died, but at least through childhood. My parents told me alcohol kills brain cells (not in excess, just if you drink you WILL lose parts of your brain) and I STILL have a weird feeling when I see people drink.
I would have a direct, brief conversation that was something like that is a private thing not a public thing. That is why they call them "private parts". You need to be in the bedroom for that. Then, as the advice of the great Faber and Mazlish, say it with a word. Every time say "bedroom". If he needs, at first, to understand you mean go there, then direct him there. He is 4. His subconscious "wishes" and impulses supersede his conscious. Reminders won't work.
I got it...tell him santa doesn't like boys who play with their penises outside the bedroom .
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