Do 5-year-olds get a say in what kind of party they get? (girl, son)
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I think there's a difference between asking for a child's opinion or preference before any plans have been made (which I think is a good idea) and caving to a tantrum after the plans have already been made (which I think is a bad idea). I would use it as a teaching moment: Dad now knows that his daughter has preferences and to solicit her input, and his daughter will learn that sometimes she won't get what she prefers and that throwing a tantrum won't change that. At this point, IMO, Dad needs to help her respond effectively to a situation that is not going to change.
I agree at this point there is little he can do but just let the party happen. But from now on he knows he needs to ask what her preferences are.
He should have asked her first.
you ask them what kind of party they want, write down the ones you can afford, and then have them pick from that list.
I couldnt imagine NOT asking a child what kind of party they wanted, or ideas.
Ask them where they want it, what kind of theme, etc and then do what you want can afford.
You know, saying mommy and daddy can afford at home, the park, jump street or the pool, which one do you like more? And then do you want princess plates or spongebob?
I agree. My 4year old daughter's party is in 2 weeks. I asked her what she would like to do for it. She wants to take the train to Charlotte which is 3 hours from here and go to the amusement park and IMAX.
But since he has already paid the deposit, I would stick to it. Maybe let her know that next year, you can see about having her special birthday at the place she selects.
ASK a 5 year old???? Not in my lifetime. The PARENT is supposed to be the ADULT and make the decisions NOT THE CHILD. If she keeps up the tantrums and tears I would tell her that the party is going to happen and she can go or not, simple as that.
Good grief! I agree that on issues like whether or not to go to school, church, Sunday School, the doctor, things like that, it's the parents' decision. But a birthday party? I do not think a parent should decide what kind of a birthday party a child will have.
I agree the dad should have at least felt out his daughter about a princess party before putting down the deposit. But now, especially considering the amount of the deposit, I think he should just have the Disney party, take her to the zoo, and learn from this experience.
If he had asked and she said princess and he put a deposit, the answer to her tantrum would be "tough, you asked for this". I wouldnt back out and lose the money, so I agree with doing a special day at the zoo with her. But for anyone to say you wouldnt ask them? If youre going to shell out a bunch of money, you should at least ask. You may not think your child can decide whats for dinner appropriately, but it their birthday for crying out loud. Small children have so little control over things in their life, why not let them decide what they want for a party for them. Its their little birthday. In my house, birthdays last all week. Not presents everyday, but a special dinner this day. And maybe a cool excursion this day. And a special treat this day. And thats not just for the kids..i love my birthday week too!!!
If he had asked and she said princess and he put a deposit, the answer to her tantrum would be "tough, you asked for this". I wouldnt back out and lose the money, so I agree with doing a special day at the zoo with her. But for anyone to say you wouldnt ask them? If youre going to shell out a bunch of money, you should at least ask. You may not think your child can decide whats for dinner appropriately, but it their birthday for crying out loud. Small children have so little control over things in their life, why not let them decide what they want for a party for them. Its their little birthday. In my house, birthdays last all week. Not presents everyday, but a special dinner this day. And maybe a cool excursion this day. And a special treat this day. And thats not just for the kids..i love my birthday week too!!!
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I honestly think spending that much on a party for a 5 year old is kinda crazy, but I get the happiness it brings to parents. Anyway my opinion would be that if shes still fussing about it then perhaps cancel the whole thing and not have a party as on poster suggested. This would be a lession to appreciate and be greatful that a lavish party is even being thrown for her birthday. And dad will know to get some insight for the celebration next year.
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Its pretty much a tradition in my family. My mom did it for me to. Its not even expensive. Like whats your fav food, you get that one day. Wanna go to the zoo? You get that one day. Want ice cream sundaes, you get that one day.
I honestly think spending that much on a party for a 5 year old is kinda crazy, but I get the happiness it brings to parents. Anyway my opinion would be that if shes still fussing about it then perhaps cancel the whole thing and not have a party as on poster suggested. This would be a lession to appreciate and be greatful that a lavish party is even being thrown for her birthday. And dad will know to get some insight for the celebration next year.
The OP never said it was a lavish party. Just a party. How did you jump to the conclusion that the party was going to be lavish?
Yeaaahhh... He should have asked her prior to putting a couple hundred down on something.
But now that the money is down, he could easily compromise with her to have the princess party and go to the zoo the previous or following day. I'm pretty sure the thought of both would make her quite happy.
Each year, in January, I have asked my daughter to think about the theme and place of her birthday party. She's picked out everything since she was 3. She'll be six this year. As of right now, she's wavering between Sonic and Hello Kitty - though she hasn't decide a place yet.
Its pretty much a tradition in my family. My mom did it for me to. Its not even expensive. Like whats your fav food, you get that one day. Wanna go to the zoo? You get that one day. Want ice cream sundaes, you get that one day.
We did something similar some years for vacations. Where rather then take 2 weeks going somewhere each day a family member picked an activity we could do for the day. One day the zoo, the next the aquarium,the next the beach etc etc.
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