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I have known families in which the children are well behaved, good students, and grew up into responsible adults who love and respect their parents. Its part luck, part inherent personality and intelligence, but mostly it is two parent families who work as a team.
Yes of course...but I doubt they were without bumps in the road. I know of no one who breezed through parenting without a hitch. Life happens.
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I have known families in which the children are well behaved, good students, and grew up into responsible adults who love and respect their parents. Its part luck, part inherent personality and intelligence, but mostly it is two parent families who work as a team.
I agree there are several factors, parenting being only 1 piece of the puzzle. 2 parent families are great, but single parents can still have good kids and still be good parents.
I agree there are several factors, parenting being only 1 piece of the puzzle. 2 parent families are great, but single parents can still have good kids and still be good parents.
Personally, I think perfection is overrated, and makes for lousy family reunions. I never aimed that high. I was content with happy kids, who could envision a future of productivity and realized it wouldn't happen without effort on their part.
Personally, I think perfection is overrated, and makes for lousy family reunions. I never aimed that high. I was content with happy kids, who could envision a future of productivity and realized it wouldn't happen without effort on their part.
Sharing and sometimes laughing at our imperfections and mistakes/misjudgements (enough after the fact that they can be laughted at) are exactly what makes for close families and happy/fun holiday get togethers. So true!
I know a few, but they are in the minority. One bragged during a mom's night out that she would never feed her child "poison from McDonald's" and that her child didn't even know what McDonald's was.
Another implied that I was a bad mother because I told her that I limit my kids' activities based on our budget. For instance, they can only play one sport, or take one dance lesson at a time. She said, "If you tell your child that you can't something you are telling her that YOU CANT AFFORD Her. You are telling her she should have never been born."
That perfect mom chooses to live in an apartment instead of purchasing a home because she never wants to say no to her child, who takes dance lessons every day and competes in dance competitions on the weekends.
Don't get me started on all the moms of children who are "gifted" because they watched Baby Einstein DVDs and attended baby art and music classes. I just can't compete.
Another implied that I was a bad mother because I told her that I limit my kids' activities based on our budget. For instance, they can only play one sport, or take one dance lesson at a time. She said, "If you tell your child that you can't something you are telling her that YOU CANT AFFORD Her. You are telling her she should have never been born."
1. I let them eat fast food.
2. They have no limits on how much tv they watch or video games they play.
3. They have ipods, cell phones and tvs.
4. They actually like organized sports.
5. If they get a B in class I don't yell at them.
6. I let my 18 year old son stay out as late as he wants.
7. I let my 15 year old son date.
8. I am paying for college.
9. I let them drive our car AND I pay for gas and insurance.
10. I let them have a say in their own birthday parties.
11. If they don't want to eat something I make for dinner they don't have to eat it.
12. I let them have dessert even if they skipped a dish at dinner.
13. I give them a monthly allowance once they start driving.
14. I don't make them do specific chores to get their allowance.
15. When there are chips in the house they are allowed to eat them.
16. When they are in trouble I sometimes yell.
17. I rarely punish my kids.
18. I let them go on school field trips even if they are expensive (as long as we can afford them).
19. I paid for my son's prom tickets.
20. I am friends with my sons and their friends on FB
Personally, I think perfection is overrated, and makes for lousy family reunions. I never aimed that high. I was content with happy kids, who could envision a future of productivity and realized it wouldn't happen without effort on their part.
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Originally Posted by LisaMc46
I know a few, but they are in the minority. One bragged during a mom's night out that she would never feed her child "poison from McDonald's" and that her child didn't even know what McDonald's was.
Another implied that I was a bad mother because I told her that I limit my kids' activities based on our budget. For instance, they can only play one sport, or take one dance lesson at a time. She said, "If you tell your child that you can't something you are telling her that YOU CANT AFFORD Her. You are telling her she should have never been born."
That perfect mom chooses to live in an apartment instead of purchasing a home because she never wants to say no to her child, who takes dance lessons every day and competes in dance competitions on the weekends.
Don't get me started on all the moms of children who are "gifted" because they watched Baby Einstein DVDs and attended baby art and music classes. I just can't compete.
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