Ever notice how your friends who's parents spanked/disciplined them turned out to.. (babysit, method)
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be well adjusted and responsible adults! And no I'm not talking about physical abuse, I'm talking about the occassional spanking so liberal peanut gallery please don't jump all over me!
be well adjusted and responsible adults! And no I'm not talking about physical abuse, I'm talking about the occassional spanking so liberal peanut gallery please don't jump all over me!
Yes. Disciplining your children is mandatory, otherwise they turn into society's nightmares.
Ever notice how your friends who's parents spanked/disciplined them turned out to..be well adjusted and responsible adults!
Nope. I know several people whose parents disciplined them, yet when they reached the real world all hell broke loose inside them because they no longer had to answer to said parents.
I know a lot of children who were not spanked who have turned out to be great children, like the three kids I babysit. Their mother does not believe in spanking and has managed so far to raise them to be wonderful people. I really enjoy spending time with them.
I also know people who grew up being spanked (and sometimes beaten) as children, who then felt completely uninhibited when they knew no one was going to come around and beat them anymore. Spanking often robs a child of the chance to develop their own inner self-discipline that helps them continue through life when there is no sense of outside discipline, since the natural order of consequences isn't always recognizable to them after they've been raised in a world with falsely set up, often more severe consequences.
I also know that you're not talking about physical abuse, but I don't trust most parents to know where the line between "spanking" and "abuse" lies. For example, my ex's parents would argue that they just gave her a "good old spanking". Well whatever they did was by my ex's own admission enough to teach her to hit when she was angry. She got so physically abusive to me that she made me deaf, and I almost lost my pinky finger.
Is it really worth the risk? I'm sure there are parents out there who know the difference, but there are far too many who don't. There are too many parents that don't know the difference between spanking a child out of love vs. hitting a child out of anger. I don't trust parents enough to even condone spanking as a general form of discipline, especially when there are other methods that don't carry such a major risk of abuse.
Nope. I know several people whose parents disciplined them, yet when they reached the real world all hell broke loose inside them because they no longer had to answer to said parents.
Well then they didn't do a good job or do it the right way! I grew up in a blue collar town where parents would smash their kid in the butt when they acted up, and five minutes later give them a hug and tell them they loved them. Seemed to work well!
be well adjusted and responsible adults! And no I'm not talking about physical abuse, I'm talking about the occassional spanking so liberal peanut gallery please don't jump all over me!
At my age, all my friends growing up were spanked... some turned out well adjusted, some did not. I don't think it had much to do with the discipline they received as children...
It may take more effort and creativity to discipline without spanking but it certainly is doable and common. And I would say that it's also quite common for parents to spank without really disciplining at all if you define discipline as teaching appropriate/morally correct behavior.
I think it might depend upon the personality of the kids. We are not yellers, swearers or spankers. Our children seemed to want to please us, most of the time. As I've said before, we only spanked our kids once or twice each, and they all can remember what the circumstances were. It was if they did something really dangerous, like riding their bike across the street without looking, and we needed to make a BIG, immediate impression on them.
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