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Originally Posted by PoppySead
I would be what you call an occasional drinker. One or two a year. I can't drink two in a row without feeling it. No way.
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No - you are simply not a drinker
If you have 1 or 2 a year and can't drink a pair without it knocking you down it's a good thing that you don't drink
At least you know that about yourself
However, don't project yourself onto others or feel the need to believe that is the common thought for others
You can't tolerate it ... that's fine ..... it's probably part of the reason why you don't drink more
Everyone has different biology
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Originally Posted by PoppySead
Being a weekend drinker isn't much different than a daily drinker. Try again.
People who drink less than a couple of drinks a year don't care about drinking at a child's party or anywhere else for that matter. It's a non issue.
I wouldn't make it an issue, I don't drink enough to care!!
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Actually there is a difference ... one would happen 1-2x per week ... the other 7x per week
If you can't see that difference, I don't know what to tell you
There are also differences in amounts
The nuance in this topic could very well blow your mind
If you have someone who drinks 1-2x per year ... but drinks to the point where they have to seek medical treatment that "occasional drinker" would be much worse than that "daily drinker" who has a glass of wine at night with their meal on 280 evenings
Also, it's quite obvious that you do care ...... you don't care if it's provided for you, but you certainly have an issue if others are partaking and it's provided for them
It's just the opposite side of the same coin
On one end you have the extreme over reactive person who won't go if there isn't alcohol
On the opposite end you have the extreme over reactive person who thinks it's a horrible thing if adults have a single drink
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Originally Posted by PoppySead
What's pathetic is seeing people say they are occasional drinkers but can have a few at a random party suffer no effect and think it's prejudice to limit it around a kids party. I don't take it as realistic, IMO, drinkers want to drink and occasional drinkers don't really care. You drink, so what, stop trying to shade the issue with this occasional stuff. It's confusing. What is the guilt about? If you don't find a problem with it, then just have a kids bday party with adults drinking. Your preference.
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Again with completely arbitrary labels ...... not sure what the label "drinker" even means
I drink water, soda, beer, wine, whiskey, lemonaide, iced tea, coffee, milk and a whole bunch of other things ..... I'm definitely a drinker
I think we are all drinkers ...... if we weren't we would be dead
The nuance is what you drink and how much you drink of it
You can kill yourself by drinking too much water - yet it is essential to life
It comes back to nuance and having a spectrum
You still have the false assumption that there is guilt - there is none - absolutely nada
You also have this misunderstanding that "drinkers want to drink" or that it's prejudice to limit it at a kids party.
Again, I don't think the vast majority of what you would call "drinkers" care if it's present or not
It's just that they aren't buying into the given reasons to prohibit it - mainly that having a couple drinks turns you into a zombie
There is a difference there
Again it's nuance
I don't care if a kids party has alcohol or not
I don't care if someone has a belief that it should be served or not
I don't care if someone provides it
I don't care if someone prohibits it
What I do care about is someone telling me I can't have a couple beers if it's provided because it will make me neglectful, it will take away from the kids and the people who provide it are irresponsible
It's a logic gap that simply cannot be filled
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Originally Posted by PoppySead
Don't pretend you don't drink but care if people think it's not ok at a kids party. That is weird, IMO. It's a non issue. Why would you care if you don't care about having a drink? It doesn't make sense. Why would people who hardly drink care about promoting it's meaning at a party for kids?
I can see why those against it would promote one without it. That does make sense.
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Again, this doesn't make sense to you because it's not a position anyone is taking
I think you are too caught up in "promoting" behaviors and are way overthinking this.
Running down the wrong rabbit hole time and again
I have yet to see anyone make this argument that they do not drink yet care that it's not offered .... so really there is nothing to respond to
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Originally Posted by PoppySead
You can try and convince me but I'm just not that into it. I don't drink enough a year to care at all. So I wouldn't bother. It's a non issue. I can skip a couple of drinks a year without an issue.
I can go to a non junk food, vegetarians bday party as well, non issue. We don't mind skipping cola, cake or the like. No issue at all. The last thing I'd do was start defending junk food. Why would I? It isn't healthy. It's not healthy to drink or smoke either. Is that something people are really unaware of in 2012? I doubt it.
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Again, you obviously care about the topic
Also, you still hold this false assumption that people
cannot skip a couple drinks or go to a party that doesn't have alcohol if they drink
No one is saying that there are items that aren't healthy
Just keeping things in perspective that there is a wide spectrum between "healthy" and "harmful to death"
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As a final aside I'll throw my own anecdote out there
I've been to 3 kids parties this month (including one I hosted)
The crowd has been primarily the same people as far as the "friends" component with the family obviously being different
1 of the 3 had alcohol - mine did not
In fact, I've yet to host a party for my kids that did have alcohol
It's obvious that since myself and my friends did go to the party that had alcohol and did have a couple of drinks there that we are "drinkers"
Yet, at the 2 parties that didn't have any there wasn't a single complaint, objection or no-show
Same people went to the same parties and did essentially the same things
The one I went to this weekend was at the house of probably the heaviest drinker amongst us and didn't have a drop present ..... again, it wasn't a big deal to anyone
That's the point
It's presence isn't a big deal
However, if it is present there is no need to avoid it at all costs
It's simply a drink option if available and that is how most of us who do not have an issue with it on this thread feel
We do not make a fuss if it isn't there ..... however, we will not make a fuss if it is
I know people who serve coffee after every meal ..... if i'm at their place I'll usually have a cup with them ....... however, if i'm at someone elses house with them we wouldn't demand that people make us coffee .... if it was available though we wouldn't refuse and there would be no reason to not drink it
It would be akin to getting upset that someone offered coke, root beer & sprite ... but neglected diet coke, which I love (this is merely an example - I really do not love diet coke.........)