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Thanks for letting me vent. I did have a short chat with both father and son yesterday and asked that they put their dirty dishes in the dishwasher as opposed to just leaving them in the sink. That's something even my 90 year old can handle; he's an expert at loading the dishwasher to full capacity.
My dad promptly rinsed off ALL the dishes in the sink - including my son's - and I told that DS needed to rinse off his own dishes. So, that was sweet of my Dad though.
Told DS same thing AND I did not want to see wet towels laying in every room (he's a swimmer so we have a lot of these).
When I got home; no towels on the floor or dirty clothes and clean clothes were put away.
I guess I have to just start announcing my expectations. Everyone wanted the big house - but only as long as "I" take care of it. My son does cut the grass, etc.
Good job! No good suffering in silence if a little chat can help you all out. I'm glad they seemed receptive.
It is funny how you can go through life trying in vain to please everyone. I have spent most of my life doing that. I guess, as southern women, we are taught to take care of our family and put them before ourselves. We are taught that we are secondary to the life that we have created and the person whom we chose to marry. When I look back at the lives of family members and friends, I find myself asking: Is that kind of thinking a recipe for disaster?
thanks
No it was called a responsibility to the whole family and self.
My mother did it, and most of the women did it that I knew
while I was growing up, and they understood those things before they got married.
Then along came womens lib, ( women who want to be independent )
and turn the position of responsibility .... to slavery.
Women libers made fun of women who knew how to take care of their family,
by call them stay in the kitchen / barefoot / pregent / slaves.
They did not want to be made fun of, so they stopped staying at home,
stoped having children, and waist money buying to many shoes they don't wear.
The husband comes home from work and wonders why she is not there ! ! !
Wife is gone working or window shopping, and he hardly sees her,
does not get to spind quality time with her, no food is cooked,
so it's Micky D's and night clubs for a relationship
with someone or somebody.
NEXT THING DIVORCE ! ! !
Then the wife says what did I do wrong ? ? ? ...
.
No it was called a responsibility to the whole family and self.
My mother did it, and most of the women did it that I knew
while I was growing up, and they understood those things before they got married.
Then along came womens lib, ( women who want to be independent )
and turn the position of responsibility .... to slavery.
Women libers made fun of women who knew how to take care of their family,
by call them stay in the kitchen / barefoot / pregent / slaves.
They did not want to be made fun of, so they stopped staying at home,
stoped having children, and waist money buying to many shoes they don't wear.
The husband comes home from work and wonders why she is not there ! ! !
Wife is gone working or window shopping, and he hardly sees her,
does not get to spind quality time with her, no food is cooked,
so it's Micky D's and night clubs for a relationship
with someone or somebody.
NEXT THING DIVORCE ! ! !
Then the wife says what did I do wrong ? ? ? ...
.
No it was called a responsibility to the whole family and self.
My mother did it, and most of the women did it that I knew
while I was growing up, and they understood those things before they got married.
Then along came womens lib, ( women who want to be independent )
and turn the position of responsibility .... to slavery.
Women libers made fun of women who knew how to take care of their family,
by call them stay in the kitchen / barefoot / pregent / slaves.
They did not want to be made fun of, so they stopped staying at home,
stoped having children, and waist money buying to many shoes they don't wear.
The husband comes home from work and wonders why she is not there ! ! !
Wife is gone working or window shopping, and he hardly sees her,
does not get to spind quality time with her, no food is cooked,
so it's Micky D's and night clubs for a relationship
with someone or somebody.
NEXT THING DIVORCE ! ! !
Then the wife says what did I do wrong ? ? ? ...
.
No it was called a responsibility to the whole family and self.
My mother did it, and most of the women did it that I knew
while I was growing up, and they understood those things before they got married.
Then along came womens lib, ( women who want to be independent )
and turn the position of responsibility .... to slavery.
Women libers made fun of women who knew how to take care of their family,
by call them stay in the kitchen / barefoot / pregent / slaves.
They did not want to be made fun of, so they stopped staying at home,
stoped having children, and waist money buying to many shoes they don't wear.
The husband comes home from work and wonders why she is not there ! ! !
Wife is gone working or window shopping, and he hardly sees her,
does not get to spind quality time with her, no food is cooked,
so it's Micky D's and night clubs for a relationship
with someone or somebody.
NEXT THING DIVORCE ! ! !
Then the wife says what did I do wrong ? ? ? ...
.
Seriously, stop stealing the plot lines of trashy novels or bad Lifetime movies.
I didn't mind having the "responsibility" of caring for my home, kids, husband... when that was all I did. I did not work outside the home, and considered it my "job" to make sure everything was taken care of.
Then
We moved. And I went to work. And, it sucks. Because, all those people who relied on Mom to take care of everything never changed their mentality. HELLO!! I work full time now too.
I've talked, yelled, gone on strike, threatened to leave...it makes a difference for a few days and then everything is back to the same old life.
Or do you mean to the OP? No, I am not a Mommy Slave, modern day or otherwise.
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