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Yes, because one of the issues that needs to be answered is whether or not the time away from baby is going to make a difference. Research supports that the differences in time we're talking about are measured in minutes per day and don't make a difference. Once that is recognized, you can set about making a, rational, decision based on what your family prefers. Once you accept that time isn't the issue, you're left with this being a personal preference and you choose what works for your family.
It's not about time. It never has been but, for some reason, we've chosen to focus on time. Time needs to be taken out of the equation here because, it appears, that both SAH and WOH parents have enough time and THAT is what matters. It's not who has more time but who has enough time and it appears working status doesn't change that we have enough time. Now decisions as to what to do with the time we do have....that's another matter.
Yes, because one of the issues that needs to be answered is whether or not the time away from baby is going to make a difference. Research supports that the differences in time we're talking about are measured in minutes per day and don't make a difference. Once that is recognized, you can set about making a, rational, decision based on what your family prefers. Once you accept that time isn't the issue, you're left with this being a personal preference and you choose what works for your family.
It's not about time. It never has been but, for some reason, we've chosen to focus on time. Time needs to be taken out of the equation here because, it appears, that both SAH and WOH parents have enough time and THAT is what matters.
Which is pretty much the best solution in the end i agree. SAHP or WP can enrich their childrens lives equally or spend little quality time with them equally. Neither is superior imo, and to be honest i would not have the patience to sit at home all day
Which is pretty much the best solution in the end i agree. SAHP or WP can enrich their childrens lives equally or spend little quality time with them equally. Neither is superior imo, and to be honest i would not have the patience to sit at home all day
Not to "sit" at home all day. LOL--was a sahm--loved it, but we really didn't stay at home that much.
One other thing to consider is what you can afford and whether you plan on having more kids. Will staying home now leave you needing to work full time after baby number 2? Trust me, it's much easier to work full time with one baby than it is a toddler and a baby.
As to the "memories" argument, you will have memories of your kids whether you work or not. It's not how much time you have but what you do with the time you have. One mistake I would beg you not to make is taking an all or nothing view of time. It's not all or nothing. There's a lot of in between.
Good luck with your decision. Whatver decision you make, make it YOUR decision. Not someone elses decision. Take the advice here and see how it applies to your life.
I think this is very solid advice, particularly the last paragraph.
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OMG, please. Do we need to do this AGAIN?
Yes, this. It would be nice if we could just stick to the OPs specific situation and not have the same SAHM/WM argument that we seem to have every two or three months.
I feel you are saying this has been discussed before aren't you?
Where? On THIS forum? No way.
OP - do what works best for YOU and your family and that's really the only thing you can do regardless of the number of children. In what situation will YOU be the happiest? Because if Mama is happy . . . . .
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