I have a 4.5 year old-son and a 10 month-old son.
The boys get along fine. The older son does not deliberately try to hurt his brother (at least I don't think so), and I haven't witnessed any direct aggression by him towards the baby.
However, occasionally the 4.5 year-old acts up in ways that he never had before his brother came along. He used to be very calm, but not he throws temper tantrums, doesn't listen, and misbehaves. This behavior has gotten more pronounced since he started preschool, as well. His preschool teacher says that she doesn't have any real behavior problems with him in class.
It is my belief that he is just doing it for parental attention, and that he's going through a "phase". We do our best to give both boys as much attention we can.
That being said, I would never claim to be a "parenting expert".
How have other parents dealt with similar situations, ones where the older child starts to act out when a younger child appears?
Thanks