calling names at school?

[njmom66]

Wow.. I can't get past the fact that the teacher pointed out that your daughter was bossy.

EXCUSE ME? You want to discuss some boys bullying your child, and the teacher wants to point out that your child is bossy? I'd be nuts right about now.

I'd be in the school, demanding a sitdown with the teacher and the principal WILL be present.

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by algia

"boys are stupid at this age and are doing it because they like her"!!! I disagree 10000% I don't think these are words that you say to anyone, let alone someone "you like".

I agree with you. It is not a boy/girl thing in 2nd grade. Maybe if it were middle school but not 2nd grade.

If I were you I would put my concerns in writing to the teacher and ask for her help. See what happens from there. Schools tend to take things more seriously if the request is in writing. I had a similar problem with my son when he was in 6th grade. I emailed his teachers and the problem ended within a week. Nobody has to know that you intervened. You can do it quietly. If the problem does not end then you need to escalate to the principal and school board. However, I would try to enlist the teacher's help first.

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by marie5v

If it were 5th grade, it might be a boy/girl thing. Not 2nd grade. It's bullying. The teacher should have addressed this by now and it should not have been allowed to continue this long. You must not let it drop. Also, you should ensure that she will not be in the same class with any of those boys next year. And don't email - go in and have a meeting with the teacher, and if that doesn't solve ASAP then go in - do not email - the principal and insist on a meeting with both of them. Call it what it is - bullying - and don't let them intimidate you into dropping it.

I have to disagree with the no email advice. The OP MUST put her concerns in writing. She can ask for a face to face meeting but having her concerns documented in writing will help her if she needs to escalate to the school board. I agree that the OP should call it bullying in her written communication.

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by algia

I did tell the teacher, and her answer was that my daughter was "bossy".....HUH? So that "justifies" name calling? I don't think so. JMO.

You MUST start documenting what happens on a daily basis and start to write to the teacher. Use the word bullying in every single communication. Ask for a face to face meeting. Document what happens in the face to face meetings. If you do not get a resolution escalate to the principal/school board. You cannot let this drop.

[theoldnorthstate]

also you might warn your daughter that children can be cruel and they will seek to find something to "get your goat" and if you let them, they win.

maybe role play a little to help her find a way to cope with these sorts of people she will run into during life.

[thethreefoldme]

Originally Posted by algia

Thoughts? I am don't think this is "OK"...at any level and already emailed her teacher...however my hubby tells her that "boys are stupid at this age and are doing it because they like her"!!! I disagree 10000%
I don't think these are words that you say to anyone, let alone someone "you like".

I don't think your hubby should be telling her they say mean things because they are boys, or boys are stupid at that age. That is sexist. I also don't think she should be told that is how someone is treated when liked.

Continue trying to talk to her teachers/administration about the issues, but more importantly talk to your daughter about bullying.

As hard as it is I also see this as a major learning opportunity. Tell her that most bullies (boys & girls) are bullied themselves, & they say mean things because they:

1. They want someone else to know how bad they hurt inside.
2. They don't know better.
3. They are insecure & don't know how else to feel better about themselves.
4. That many people will side with bullies because they are afraid.

If she knows this, she will know bullying says more about them than it does about her.