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Old 04-16-2013, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Finland
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Then what is the difference between what you are calling "being respectful" and being polite?
I don't really see a difference. I think there is a difference between being respectful and actually having respect for someone.
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Old 04-16-2013, 04:11 PM
 
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It remains to be seen if the word "respect" changes in meaning in years to come since so many people use it to mean "nice" or "polite".
I think it is a regional difference. People around here use the word polite to mean being polite.

Respect - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

To be honest, until I came to CD I had never really seen anyone use the term respect to apply to common courtesy. Also, I don't see it in any definition for the word.

Respect | Define Respect at Dictionary.com
Polite | Define Polite at Dictionary.com

I do think the words matter if only because people appear to be aghast when some of us state we don't know how to "respect" people we do not know. Well respect means to hold in high regard, again, I have no idea how you are supposed to do that for people you have no knowledge of. That being said, I am certainly, courteous, civil, have good manners, etc. towards strangers aka "polite".
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Old 04-16-2013, 04:24 PM
 
Location: The Midwest
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Then what is the difference between what you are calling "being respectful" and being polite?
There isn't any...that is what I was trying to convey. I use them interchangeably, as do many people I know, but like you said, maybe it's a regional difference.
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Old 04-16-2013, 05:46 PM
 
Location: Central Texas
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If you treat others with respect, whether you know them or not, whether they have passed some secret "test" for being respectable or not, you are respecting yourself. If you don't, you aren't. No matter what you might think.

Someone who is worthy of respect treats others with respect until said others have proven themselves unworthy of that respect. Not vice versa.
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Old 04-16-2013, 05:51 PM
 
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If you treat others with respect, whether you know them or not, whether they have passed some secret "test" for being respectable or not, you are respecting yourself. If you don't, you aren't. No matter what you might think.

Someone who is worthy of respect treats others with respect until said others have proven themselves unworthy of that respect. Not vice versa.

This is why I think the words matter.

What exactly has a random stranger done that warrants RESPECT

"esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability"

Every human being is due courtesy and politeness

"showing good manners toward others, as in behavior, speech, etc.; courteous"

But if I am holding EVERYONE in high esteem regardless of whether or not I know they are respectable it devalues the entire notion of respect.
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Old 04-16-2013, 06:04 PM
 
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This is why I think the words matter.
Words, yes. Grammar, not so much. You are an odd one.
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Old 04-16-2013, 06:08 PM
 
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Words, yes. Grammar, not so much. You are an odd one.
Really?

Its odd that I think the idea matters most?

And if anything I am routinely against judging people. Here people are being judged as less than human for for not "respecting" strangers, and in another thread a woman was judged as incompetent for a mistake all of us make EVERYDAY. Including YOU.
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Old 04-16-2013, 06:10 PM
 
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Really?

Its odd that I think the idea matters most?


And if anything I am routinely against judging people.
LOL! That is rich beyond measure.
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Old 04-16-2013, 06:11 PM
 
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LOL! That is rich beyond measure.
Try to be consistent.

The people on this thread, at least according to the dictionary, are misusing the word "respect" over and over again. Shouldn't you be calling them incompetent now?
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Old 04-16-2013, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Central Texas
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Mirriam-Webster:

Respect:

2: an act of giving particular attention : consideration


Consideration:

3: thoughtful and sympathetic regard
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