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I thought mine was fairly early for my crowd of people in NYC - 6 months. However, I had moved to SC, and people insisted on hosting something for me, so I flew up. Probably spent more on the tickets than if I had bought all the baby stuff (which most people were kind enough to ship to my house, due to transportation issues, or gave me gift cards). It was more like a family/friends reunion, which was nice.
I would say anytime after 27 weeks, and you're likely good. 27 weeks is usually the time when mothers breathe a bit easier because there's a chance the baby will survive if it has to be born.
Thanks for your replies and concern. My SIL went onto to have two children, both healthy babies.
I didn't know if it was cultural, when my MIL made that comment to me. That's why I wondered about waiting.
I researched baby showers and it was not until the 1950's that people started giving shower ahead of time. The tradition is seen in ancient Egypt, Greece and Middle Ages. In the Victorian era, women kept the pregnancy a secret as long as possible, and a tea was given for the baby and mom after the birth.
I know anything could happen at any time, to anyone! I think in the modern era we forget how many women and babies were lost during childbirth. If I had not had the experience I had, I certainly would not be thinking about baby showers the way I do now.
It really depends on the person and the circumstances. For my showers, I was around 30 weeks because I live out of state from both my family and my inlaws. I took a vacation to my home, and they threw me a shower there, I was roughly 30 weeks then. Then I went to my inlaws in another state and had a joint shower with my sister in law (due a week after me) and was roughly 32 weeks then. Its a good thing we did it when we did - i had my son 2 weeks later, though we didnt get to use much of any of the clothes gifts until he was about 3-4 months when he actually fit newborn clothes.
My mother, born in 1922, only talked about gifts being given to a babyafter it was born. If they had showers it was always after the birth, frequently a month or two later (after the mom was feeling better and they were sure that the baby was healthy). I was born in 1952 and some of the showers that I attended were after the baby was born and others were no earlier than 7 1/2 or 8 months along in the pregnancy.
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I lost my baby at 6m gestation, so it would have been early for a shower anyway. Thank goodness I didn't have one. I was already dealing with the feeling that I'd let everyone down as it was.
Among babyloss moms I know some choose to wait until after subsequent babies are born before having a shower. For many, pregnancy is more of an anxious than exciting time. Others choose to express their faith that this new pregnancy will end in a healthy baby by having pre-birth showers.
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