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Old 05-01-2013, 08:34 PM
 
Location: A tropical island
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I still have the pearl ring my parents gave me for my high school graduation, as well as the piano lamp they gave me for my college graduation (it was something I specifically mentioned I needed).

I love the jewelry idea, especially if it is something timeless and classic, that she can always remember as being your gift to her at graduation. Maybe a pendant with a gemstone in her school color? Or her favorite color or her birthstone? Or maybe a piece with a symbol in Mandarin that says something special, like love or success or daughter?
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Old 05-01-2013, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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He wasn't being snarky. He was more or less stating his hope that she was going to help you pay off the loans. What you wrote implies that financing her education wasn't easy for you.

This is a forum, it's not like we are all standing in the grocery store discussing MightyQueen's finances - now that would be rude. This is impersonal, we have no clue who each other actually is.

She stated she didn't want to buy too expensive of a gift because she had to take loans to pay for her daughter's education. Declan's Dad responded back, more or less, that he hoped her daughter would help ease that burden since she received the benefit. No judgement there, just an opinion.

I always try to assume, if a poster's comment could be interpreted more than one way, that they meant it to be the more positive one.
I mentioned the loans simply to say, "I'm on a tight budget."

OF COURSE she is also going to be paying off loans. I think what ruffled my feathers was the implied assumption that it was otherwise, that I was going to be eating cat food or something while my daughter walked away with her degree and without any obligation.

This is how it works, folks. The student is only eligible for a certain $$ amount of federal loans on her own signature. Any other needed loans have to be either taken out by parents (such as the federal Parents Plus loan) OR the student takes out private loans and has a parent co-sign for them. The latter usually results in a lower interest rate, provided that the parent has good credit. I will pay off what I co-signed, and her father will...well, he'll probably do whatever he can not to pay off what he co-signed because that's the way he rolls.

Anyway, it's water under the bridge. Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. Lots of good ideas.
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Old 05-01-2013, 08:52 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I still have the pearl ring my parents gave me for my high school graduation, as well as the piano lamp they gave me for my college graduation (it was something I specifically mentioned I needed).

I love the jewelry idea, especially if it is something timeless and classic, that she can always remember as being your gift to her at graduation. Maybe a pendant with a gemstone in her school color? Or her favorite color or her birthstone? Or maybe a piece with a symbol in Mandarin that says something special, like love or success or daughter?
I thought of this. She has a Chinese name that means something like summer wind. But if I screwed it up she'd know. She tells me that a few times when people have found she knows Chinese, they've shown her a tattoo that they proudly tell her means XYZ in Chinese, and it doesn't mean what they think it means.
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Old 05-01-2013, 09:06 PM
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Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Off topic but I wanted to say how great it is that your daughter picked great majors. I am sure you are proud as can be.

I am sure that any jewelry would be fine and remembered.
Mightyqueen would be proud of her daughter no matter what major or majors she chose to excel in.
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Old 05-01-2013, 09:13 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Mightyqueen would be proud of her daughter no matter what major or majors she chose to excel in.
Haha, that is true. Raising her is really the only thing of value I've accomplished in life. I never finished college, failed at marriage, and without a shadow of a doubt I will die, still in debt, a weird old lady who lives with her cats, but at least my kid turned out well!
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Old 05-01-2013, 09:19 PM
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Location: The New England part of Ohio
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When I graduated HS my parents gave me a crappy watch that I still have. I never wore it, it is quite crappy. I never wore watches or jewelry, and can not figure out what made them think I would want to have a watch to begin with, let alone a crappy watch. For college graduation my mother gave me 100 bucks.

Anyway, I am not sure if my little story helps any, it just made me reminisce about my crappy high school graduation gift lol.
I am wearing my graduation watch right now - a Movado museum watch on it's 5th or 6th wristband. I love it. I still tell time the old fashioned way - with time pieces.
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Old 05-01-2013, 09:22 PM
 
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Raising her is really the only thing of value I've accomplished in life.
Sorry, my friend but you are SO wrong.

You got out of the WTC. (Twice, right?) You are a survivor who accomplished something very special:

Those SOB's tried to kill you and they did not succeed. You denied them the one thing they wanted: your life. By getting yourself out and surviving you denied them the chance to kill someone's mother and make her mourn the rest of her life. I think you've accomplished much more than you realize.
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Old 05-01-2013, 09:32 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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He wasn't being snarky. He was more or less stating his hope that she was going to help you pay off the loans. What you wrote implies that financing her education wasn't easy for you.

This is a forum, it's not like we are all standing in the grocery store discussing MightyQueen's finances - now that would be rude. This is impersonal, we have no clue who each other actually is.

She stated she didn't want to buy too expensive of a gift because she had to take loans to pay for her daughter's education. Declan's Dad responded back, more or less, that he hoped her daughter would help ease that burden since she received the benefit. No judgement there, just an opinion.

I always try to assume, if a poster's comment could be interpreted more than one way, that they meant it to be the more positive one.
Except that wasn't her question. Hence the "not your business" response.

....

And a big to Dew's comment.
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Old 05-01-2013, 10:36 PM
 
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Sorry, my friend but you are SO wrong.

You got out of the WTC. (Twice, right?) You are a survivor who accomplished something very special:

Those SOB's tried to kill you and they did not succeed. You denied them the one thing they wanted: your life. By getting yourself out and surviving you denied them the chance to kill someone's mother and make her mourn the rest of her life. I think you've accomplished much more than you realize.
This is huge MQ, Dew is right. You've been an example of strength for your daughter, and I'm sure she's as proud of you as you are of her.

And, hey, don't forget you are a C-D contest winner
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Old 05-02-2013, 09:27 AM
 
Location: A tropical island
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I thought of this. She has a Chinese name that means something like summer wind. But if I screwed it up she'd know. She tells me that a few times when people have found she knows Chinese, they've shown her a tattoo that they proudly tell her means XYZ in Chinese, and it doesn't mean what they think it means.
That's funny!! She probably has to suppress a pretty good laugh sometimes!
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