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Old 05-24-2013, 07:49 PM
 
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Why do I need his back up? And why wouldn't I come on this website and say " I got my son to help me show up his mom by bursting into our bedroom and yelling at her" to get back at her
The problem lies in the fact that the moment your son barged in, you didn't get up right away to holler at and push him out and to tell him to MHOB. You let him have it at her again. Your son said too much. This situation works against you.

Now your wife is thinking that you turned your son against her. You need to sit down with your wife *NOW* and say, hey our marriage is in serious trouble and we have a hard time communicating and getting to the heart of the issue. Again, if she doesn't want therapy... then she needs to know something's gotta change.

Seriously, don't mind us. Deal with your problem *NOW*

 
Old 05-24-2013, 08:19 PM
 
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Why do I need his back up? And why wouldn't I come on this website and say " I got my son to help me show up his mom by bursting into our bedroom and yelling at her" to get back at her
You are being passive/aggressive and so is she.

Passive-aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them. There's a disconnect between what a passive-aggressive person says and what he or she does. For a passive-aggressive person, true feelings are shared through actions, not words.
 
Old 05-25-2013, 07:52 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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You sound like a good guy and I bet that a lot of women would gladly trade places with your wife. If she could see what kind of men are out there in the dating pool, she'd value you a heck of a lot more.
Thanks, I'm not sure how many women would be willing to date someone with an 18 year old. Most people my age still have kids in early grade school.
 
Old 05-25-2013, 08:15 AM
 
Location: here
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Thanks, I'm not sure how many women would be willing to date someone with an 18 year old. Most people my age still have kids in early grade school.
please do not let that stop you from doing what you feel you need to do. I bet people would rather date someone with an 18 year old kid than with a 8 year old kid.
 
Old 05-25-2013, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Thanks, I'm not sure how many women would be willing to date someone with an 18 year old. Most people my age still have kids in early grade school.
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please do not let that stop you from doing what you feel you need to do. I bet people would rather date someone with an 18 year old kid than with a 8 year old kid.
Kibbiekat is so right!
 
Old 05-25-2013, 10:08 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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after a lot of effort, I convinced her to go with me to marriage counseling on Tuesday
 
Old 05-25-2013, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Dallas
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Wonderful!! That's great news...just don't let her change her mind.
 
Old 05-25-2013, 12:09 PM
 
Location: The Triangle
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after a lot of effort, I convinced her to go with me to marriage counseling on Tuesday
Did the promise of gifts help convince your wife to go with you or did she agree without being bribed? Of course the main thing is that she is going. I hope she follows through.
 
Old 05-25-2013, 12:10 PM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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no gifts
 
Old 05-25-2013, 12:14 PM
 
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^^^ Well that's good she agreed to go without being bribed.
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