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Old 06-12-2013, 10:43 PM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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I'm just betting I go to therapy solo tomorrow. He knows that this will be discussed and he probably won't want to. Maybe, I'll be surprised. Just a thought

 
Old 06-13-2013, 09:23 AM
 
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I'm just betting I go to therapy solo tomorrow. He knows that this will be discussed and he probably won't want to. Maybe, I'll be surprised. Just a thought

I certainly hope he goes. Perhaps he could ask how to handle the "after therapy" grilling he goes through by your wife. That is a damn shame.
 
Old 06-13-2013, 09:55 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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I went to the session alone. He was still sleeping, he usually sets his alarm on therapy days in order to be up on time. I had a talk with my wife that worried me. She decided last night that she was "done with him." According to her, she will no longer do his laundry( he has no idea how to) and she will no longer cook for him. She'll cook the same quantity of food but she will not set a place for him. Seeing as how our kitchen table seats 6( she loved the table when we bought it even though it was 3 seats too many) I'm guessing she will only set 2 places. Any food she and I don't eat will not be his portion, it will be leftovers. He's not invited when we eat out and she's no longer giving him money. I'm not going to play referee and I'm going to let them work it out even though I think her idea is horrible. Not much to report from counseling.
 
Old 06-13-2013, 10:29 AM
 
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Oh well. I'm willing to bet this will backfire on her in ways she's not expecting. Your wife was always punitive, don't act like you never knew that. She's simply training your son to play along with her little games. You helped her last night a bit by guilt-tripping your son. This is why your son needs to be out of the house so that he's not in the middle of your games.
 
Old 06-13-2013, 10:36 AM
 
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Sheesh, your wife is such an immature brat. How do you stand her?

On the bright side, she just justified his need/desire to start doing things to become independent. And why in hell are you worried? Why is her idea horrible? Is it such a bad thing that he learn how to cook, do laundry, earn money, BE AN ADULT??? She just got herself out of his hair!!!

What the hell is wrong with both of you?
 
Old 06-13-2013, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Yep, this is her retaliation for his pushback yesterday.

It's very cruel.

He needs to practice independence, but this is exclusion.
 
Old 06-13-2013, 10:54 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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And why in hell are you worried? Why is her idea horrible? Is it such a bad thing that he learn how to cook, do laundry, earn money, BE AN ADULT??? She just got herself out of his hair!!!
I agree it's practice for him but it's extreme. She's not even going to give him any advice into how to do laundry or cook. When I was growing up( I guess when we all were), we learned things gradually, first we learned how to cook easy stuff and then it got more and more complex and the laundry was taught to us. I can't think of anyone who's parent just threw a laundry basket at them and said " figure it out"
 
Old 06-13-2013, 10:59 AM
 
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I agree it's practice for him but it's extreme. She's not even going to give him any advice into how to do laundry or cook. When I was growing up( I guess when we all were), we learned things gradually, first we learned how to cook easy stuff and then it got more and more complex and the laundry was taught to us. I can't think of anyone who's parent just threw a laundry basket at them and said " figure it out"
Then... be the parent to teach him if you're so concerned. Why are you taking yourself out of this equation?
 
Old 06-13-2013, 11:04 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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Because I'm not going to referee, I'm not getting involved.
 
Old 06-13-2013, 11:06 AM
 
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Because I'm not going to referee, I'm not getting involved.
Games.

You just don't want to p**s off your wife since you're in her good graces now.
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