Should a 9 year old boy sleep with his mother? (support, parent, appropriate)
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Your kids should not sleep in your bed at ANY age. Not newborn, not 2, not 12, not 20!
I disagree with this statement. I have great memories of snuggling with my kids in our big bed and then falling asleep with them next to me. Didn't happen often, but those are good memories. Remembering waking up the next morning to them snoring with tousled hair, drooling on dad's pillow makes me smile even now.
Kid need all the security they can get through the early years. If climbing in next to Mom once in awhile gives them comfort...what's the harm?
Why? Are boys not entitled to feel fear? Are boys not in need of comfort?
I guess a switch flips at the age of three, but only in boys.
How odd.
This is purely a cultural thing; in many cultures, children sleep with their parents. In the United States, many don't, but many do. There are a lot of people who subscribe to the family bed.
In the end, who cares? No one will graduate from high school still sleeping in mama's bed. Whether they're two, six, nine, twelve when they move into their own rooms, what difference does it make? And the OP was only talking about occasional sleepovers, not even every night.
In the grand scheme of things, this is such a non-issue.
I don't need to know the specifics. A boy, over three should not sleep with his mother.
There is NO EXCUSE!
Well, I obviously blew it then. I can't recall specifics but I've no doubt that my son occasionally slept in my bed past the age of 3 for a variety of reasons. At some point, he stopped wanting to do that. And he grew up just fine. No Oedipal complex or maladjustment of any kind - (other than what simply comes with the territory of being a 20 yr old ). Who knew I did it ALL WRONG? Thanks for enlightening me.
I don't need to know the specifics. A boy, over three should not sleep with his mother.
There is NO EXCUSE!
Why? Are you putting a weird sexual orientation on a 4 year old boy sleeping with Mom? What about a girl sleeping with Mom at age 4? Is that ok to you? I find the gender specific / age specific response odd...
None of us are making "excuses" (odd choice of words...and an "!" even)...my children were welcome to snuggle in my bed if they needed the extra comfort or reassurance. No excuses needed.
If he doesn't grow out of it or if there develops a rivalry between father and son, I would be concerned. I would never of had my sons sleep at that age sleep in the bed with me. Hopefully she is well covered while sleeping with the child. Sorry but I see an "ick" factor here. I wonder if this is for the boy or for the mother. Breasts are breasts and such despite on whom they appear.
Breasts are breasts despite on whom they appear? Are you insinuating that the son may view his mother sexually if he sees her breasts? If so, that's ridiculous. Mom is mom to children, not a sexual being, breasts or no breasts.
Children sleeping in the same bed with their parents has nothing what so ever to so with sex. Moderator Cut.
Last edited by Jaded; 05-31-2013 at 01:03 AM..
Reason: Flaming
What about a 10/11/12 year old girl with mom or dad or both?
I don't like the idea one bit on any side of the equation.
Again, I wonder what's going through your mind when you picture an 11 year old coming into her parent's bedroom after a nightmare? No one is naked, no one is doing anything inappropriate. What you have is a CHILD needing reassurance and comfort...this is the same kid who needed hugs for a stubbed toe just a couple years ago. I never had a problem scooting over to give one of my kiddos a chunk of pillow and a place to sleep.
Why? Are boys not entitled to feel fear? Are boys not in need of comfort?
Of course not! You have me all wrong! Comfort is a great thing, Fears and tears are a normal part of childhood.
But a girl of that age sleeping with dad - or the other way around, is not right. It also may be illegal or cause for a child protective investigation.
In my former state, brothers and sisters over 9 could not even share a room!
Of course not! You have me all wrong! Comfort is a great thing, Fears and tears are a normal part of childhood.
But a girl of that age sleeping with dad - or the other way around, is not right. It also may be illegal or cause for a child protective investigation.
In my former state, brothers and sisters over 9 could not even share a room!
I am being realistic here.
Oh please.... no one is calling CPS because a 5/7 yo boy crawls into bed with his mom (or a girl with her dad) after a nightmare.
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). Who knew I did it ALL WRONG? Thanks for enlightening me.
