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View Poll Results: What is the spend-the-night policy in your home when your teen is spending the night with a friend f
I must meet the parents in advance. 4 23.53%
I will sometimes speak to the other parent on the phone to make the arrangements. 3 17.65%
Txt or phone communication is fine. 1 5.88%
If I know the other teen, I don't need to speak to his/her parents. 8 47.06%
Depends whether it is my son or daughter. 0 0%
Other. 1 5.88%
Voters: 17. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 06-16-2013, 06:01 AM
 
Location: NE Florida
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Have you met all the parents of the friends they are spending the night with for the first time, or do you sometimes speak with them on the phone?

And is your experience current or have your rules changed?

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Old 06-16-2013, 06:04 AM
 
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We actually knew all of our childrens friend's parents when they were teenagers and if we did not know them they did not go anywhere with that particular friend, especially to spend the night. I should add that our children rarely spent the night anywhere else though. They preferred to be at home with us and have their friends come to our home so for us this was not an issue. In addition to that the rare times they did spend the night with a friend we knew the friend and their parents and had known them since our children were about 4 years old. Most of their friends lived in the same area as we did and they all went to school together as well as being involved in sports and usually on the same teams.
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Old 06-16-2013, 07:10 AM
 
Location: San Marcos, TX
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Hmm.... it hasn't come up yet where they've wanted to go spend the night and I didn't already know the parents. One of my son's friends is over here all the time (right now, in fact) and I have only met his mom once. She doesn't seem to monitor his coming and going very closely which makes me more inclined to have him sleep over here because I worry about him too and this way I know where he is, even though he isn't "mine"! I joke that I am going to start charging him "admission", though, consisting of a box of cereal and a roll of toilet paper!
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Old 06-16-2013, 07:47 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I had always known the parents of the friends... well before any discussion of staying over came up.
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Old 06-16-2013, 08:08 AM
 
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In elementary and middle school I would almost always meet or at least talk to the other parents, but by the time my kids got to high school, it was almost always their friends staying at my house, and by then I would know their friends that I didn't need to meet the parents.
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Old 06-16-2013, 08:55 AM
 
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We recently moved 2000 miles, DD is 14. Prior to the move, we knew all parents etc. We had all been in the same circles of sports, school, neighborhood etc. for years and years.

With the move came some soul searching and some changes in our standards. DD started at a new school and we really wanted her to settle in. Towards this endeavor we took a few more risks with her spending the night with friends etc. than perhaps we would have prior to our move. We also went and retrieved her from a sleepover that she was uncomfortable with late at night more than once. We continue to strive to meet parents in advance but that is not always a reasonable expectation. We do usually speak on the phone and one of us does make sure to at least meet the Mom or Dad when we are dropping DD off. We do insist on seeing the house so we know where she is.

She is 14 years old, we have given her good skills, she has good judgment and she knows we will come get her anytime anyplace, all she needs to do is either text or call regardless of what time it is.
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Old 06-16-2013, 03:35 PM
 
Location: S. Florida
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Have you met all the parents of the friends they are spending the night with for the first time, or do you sometimes speak with them on the phone?

And is your experience current or have your rules changed?
We would have to meet and or speak on the phone with the parents prior to him sleeping out. Our son is 14.5 years old. However, he really doesn't sleep over any one's house other than his cousins (my sister's kids).
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