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Old 08-04-2013, 06:37 PM
 
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My bff/landlady has temporarily offered shelter to her son's ex-girlfriend, and her little boy (to another man and we live in a big house).

He's adorable, absolutely the cutest little thing - but he cannot say one word.

I'm racking my brains as to why this would be. Both of my kids were yapping away from birth, it seems.

He makes plenty of noise but its all wordless. He sounds like a monkey or something.

Not even mama or baba or anything at all recognisable...as though he has no tongue or something.

Any suggestions?
Delayed speech suggest autism, which is epidemic these days thanks to...*ahem* (can't offend the Big Pharma gods)
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Old 08-04-2013, 06:56 PM
 
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My uncle didn't speak until he was almost 4. He'd had all the tests done, they decided he was just mute.

One day (I was eight, he's my pocket uncle) he walked into the kitchen, looked at my grandmother and said "Water please, use my cup"

Grandma screamed, we all stood there looking at him absolutely stunned. Rick didn't speak again for almost a year.

He was put into learning disabled classes until age 6, when they moved him to the THIRD grade.

He's a Mathlete, speaks nine languages fluently, graduated with his masters by 22 and throws away invitations for MENSA.

He's tenured in Princeton, where he lives.

He still speaks about once a week if it's warranted but he HEARS everything.

You could have a little genius on your hands!
Possibly, but nowadays I'd have a pediatrician and a specialist look at the kid to see if that were likely
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Old 08-04-2013, 09:05 PM
 
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Thanks.

He can hear just fine I think and mom doesn't seem bothered at all.

It's the lack of discernible babble that worries me. It's all just grunts and squeals.

I thought all babies started off with mamamama and bababa and dadada?
It's the mom and the lack of parental skills. I have a baby cousin who is the exact same way, and although I am not a mother, my mother was pretty much the babysitter of the family so I grew up helping out with the rearing of the kids in our family.

What I've noticed is that if the mother or father are not actively interacting with their child, and speaking to their child on a daily basis, but leaving the child to just watch television programs or to themselves, the child will not be so social.

Children are very malleable at this age, and if you are a parent (like another relative of mine) that speaks to your child daily, reads to them, teaches them their colors while say--at the grocery store--the child is going to be more likely sociable and engaging.

I would perhaps speak to the mom but be delicate in the way you approach her, because with my cousin that is not speaking--going on 4 (he says little words but not much)--his parents will not have anyone give them advice on how to raise her child. Silly if you ask me but that's there hard lesson to learn.

Perhaps you can suggest taking all of your kids on a trip to the library and then saying afterwards, "your son seems to really enjoy being read too, maybe we should take some books home so he can have bedtime stories..."
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Old 08-04-2013, 09:07 PM
 
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Delayed speech suggest autism, which is epidemic these days thanks to...*ahem* (can't offend the Big Pharma gods)
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Old 08-04-2013, 09:42 PM
 
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Op, my son was just blabbering the first 3 years , then all of a sudden he talked. He will start second grade this fall. His vocabulary is not great yet but he reads like a third grader.

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Old 08-04-2013, 09:45 PM
 
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What??.I want to know ? :-)

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Old 08-04-2013, 09:57 PM
 
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Delayed speech suggest autism, which is epidemic these days thanks to...*ahem* (can't offend the Big Pharma gods)
autism is not *epidemic,* it is simply better diagnosed (and sometimes misdiagnosed).

Speech delays suggest many different possibilities and *sometimes* it is nothing to be worried about and other times it is something we need to address with therapies.

Note, that this child is totally non-verbal. If he is communicating by other means than he may not have autism, but another condition. Autism is actually dxed primarily by social difficulties and while speech delay is part of that, it is not the only thing that gets the dx. My grandson who has autism did not point, did not gesture to communicate, did not know how to make his needs known. He also did not play with toys, he only used them to stimulate his senses.
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Old 08-04-2013, 10:05 PM
 
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Possibly the child's larynx or vocal cords failed to develop properly. I have to agree with other posters that the child needs to be thoroughly examined and tests run.
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Old 08-04-2013, 10:14 PM
 
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Yes exactly.

He sounds like R2D2.

Beeps, whirrs and whistles, but no actual words.

No one's asked the mum, it's a bit of a strange situation, I'm not really sure how they've even washed up here, homeless.

I'm amazed his crèche hasn't said something, but maybe they have and she's in denial.
So if the mom hasn't been asked about this, then its possible that she is aware of the problem and has taken the necessary steps (if there are any) to help the kid out.
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Old 08-04-2013, 10:42 PM
 
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Thanks.

He can hear just fine I think and mom doesn't seem bothered at all.

It's the lack of discernible babble that worries me. It's all just grunts and squeals.

I thought all babies started off with mamamama and bababa and dadada?

You say, "He can hear just fine I think"...I'm a bit !!! If someone asks him to do something,does he do it? Such as being told to put on his shoes and socks, sit down, etc.,etc.
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