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I have a two and a half year old daughter, and noticing certain personality traits. Shy, loves books, pays attention and is focused during circle time. (This is while at a formal learning center environment aka daycare.) She sits near the front of the group and is very attentive during circle time.
This is in contrast to some other kids. I can recognize in others the ones who are class clowns, the ones who are hyper and can't sit still, etc.
It's interesting - the personality makeup of the kids is very similar to what I remember my elementary and junior high schools as being like. Some hyper, some class clows, some fidgety, and some kids focused and attentive.
I'm wondering if the personality in these respects changes a lot over the years. Do the 2 1/2 year old class clowns settle down by age 6, or do they continue to be class clowns? Do the hyper kids radically change into the calm students, or do they stay hyperactive throughout school?
I'm thinking this part of the personality and it doesn't change a lot, but would appreciate the insight of other parents
My son was always really hyperactive, and fidgety and into everything at that age, and the same holds true for when he went to elementary school. (He was actually diagnosed ADHD)
and in the first grade was sent to SAFE like everyday, for being unruly or wild.)
As an Adult, he has sharp focus though, very intelligent, is attending University (College of Engineering) and makes straight A's....he has been this way for years now.
I guess he eventually grew up and grew out of it. (And no he is not medicated.)
He has a friend who made all A's and B's in grade school, was sent to all the finest Private schools in the city, who dropped out of school (college) and is yet to find employment.
So, I think yes, some personality traits stay the same, but sometimes they obviously change.
My daughter was calm at that age, and she could occupy herself for hours at that age. She's still the same. My son was WILD at that age; I chased him all over and he was into everything. He wanted and needed constant attention. He calmed down at 5, and he's been an exemplary student since then.
It depends. My daughter at 2.5 was queen of the tantrum, now at 9 she hasn't had a tantrum since she was 3. She's very laid back and not dramatic at all. Some things are the same though, she was always very social and continues to be for example.
Now my son at 2.5 was crazy, hyper and impulsive and at nearly 7 he still is Crazee Cat Lady's post gives me hope.
I'm wondering if the personality in these respects changes a lot over the years. Do the 2 1/2 year old class clowns settle down by age 6, or do they continue to be class clowns? Do the hyper kids radically change into the calm students, or do they stay hyperactive throughout school?
I'm thinking this part of the personality and it doesn't change a lot, but would appreciate the insight of other parents
There is personality/nature and there is nurture. Both have a role to play. Something like being "hyper" (I hate that term because of all the negative connotations) may be nature. A child may need to learn to channel that energy productively. A class clown may be a kid with an uneducated sense of humor (nurture) or a kid who is getting their crucuial c's (either connecting or counting) met with this behavior if that is how he has learned to belong.
My son will be 18 (!) next month. I still see a lot of the same personality traits that he started to exhibit around ages 2 and 3 (thoughtful, observant, cautious, more of a follower than a leader, empathetic), only some are more pronounced now. I think a foundation has been laid by this young age, but there is so much development and enhancement that will occur during the years, many due to the child's "nature", others shaped by experiences. I think you're catching true glimpses of what your daughter will be like years down the road, but she's by no means a finished product.
Oh, and when you're told to enjoy these years because they grow up in the blink of an eye...believe every word of it!!
I have a two and a half year old daughter, and noticing certain personality traits. Shy, loves books, pays attention and is focused during circle time. (This is while at a formal learning center environment aka daycare.) She sits near the front of the group and is very attentive during circle time.
This is in contrast to some other kids. I can recognize in others the ones who are class clowns, the ones who are hyper and can't sit still, etc.
It's interesting - the personality makeup of the kids is very similar to what I remember my elementary and junior high schools as being like. Some hyper, some class clows, some fidgety, and some kids focused and attentive.
I'm wondering if the personality in these respects changes a lot over the years. Do the 2 1/2 year old class clowns settle down by age 6, or do they continue to be class clowns? Do the hyper kids radically change into the calm students, or do they stay hyperactive throughout school?
I'm thinking this part of the personality and it doesn't change a lot, but would appreciate the insight of other parents
Your daughter sounds just like our daughter, who is now 5 1/2. Her personality has not changed much since she was your daughter's age. As a matter of fact, she may be even more focused than she ever was, and she refuses to put down her books. She may be coming just a little bit more out of her shyness.
This is in contrast to some other kids. I can recognize in others the ones who are class clowns, the ones who are hyper and can't sit still, etc.
It's interesting - the personality makeup of the kids is very similar to what I remember my elementary and junior high schools as being like. Some hyper, some class clows, some fidgety, and some kids focused and attentive.
This made me chuckle! All two and a half year olds are hyper, fidgety, and attentive at different points during the day. (if they are going to one of those silly "academic daycares" where the two year olds are doing worksheets, I could see why.) It's actually humorous how you are considering that how your two year old acts in daycare is how she is going to behave when she is 10, or 17, or even 30. I mean, she is a toddler.....A lot of kids with the best parents turn out bad, but some kids don't, and some rough household children turn out great. From the look of the ten other threads you started, it seems like you're over analyzing every little choice you make with her. I would chill out and just go with the flow. You can send her to the best schools for K12, only allow her to eat healthy foods, "never allow her play too much video games", "never buy her any over the top products", (trying to remember all the question threads you posted) etc and she can still turn out bad.
And to be honest, when I went to apply for my first choice university a year ago, they only minimally cared about GPA, whether we were in "honors" or "AP" classes, because class difficulty varies widly between schools (, so getting a good grade means almost nothing to colleges. Which is why they care about SAT and ACT scores more than anything, because everyone gets the same test without being given a watered-down version for the sake of simplicity. I had some AP classes completed and they didn't even count the credits because the university knows that the AP curriculum in some high schools is severely watered down to get more students to pass the class.
(if they are going to one of those silly "academic daycares" where the two year olds are doing worksheets, I could see why.)
It's called daycare. When kids have two working parents, they go to daycare during the day. I'll let you figure out whether we have one or two working parents in our family.
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It's actually humorous how you are considering that how your two year old acts in daycare is how she is going to behave when she is 10, or 17, or even 30.
Actually, I was wondering if how she is today will be an indication of how she is when she is 6 or 7.
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I hope not because my 2 and a half year old has a very angry personality. Some aspects of her personality are great and I hope they stay, like her sense of humour and her love of nature but I could really do without the quivering rage that she exhibits.
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Crazee Cat Lady's post gives me hope. 
All two and a half year olds are hyper, fidgety, and attentive at different points during the day. (if they are going to one of those silly "academic daycares" where the two year olds are doing worksheets, I could see why.) It's actually humorous how you are considering that how your two year old acts in daycare is how she is going to behave when she is 10, or 17, or even 30. I mean, she is a toddler.....A lot of kids with the best parents turn out bad, but some kids don't, and some rough household children turn out great. From the look of the ten other threads you started, it seems like you're over analyzing every little choice you make with her. I would chill out and just go with the flow. 
You can send her to the best schools for K12, only allow her to eat healthy foods, "never allow her play too much video games", "never buy her any over the top products", (trying to remember all the question threads you posted) etc and she can still turn out bad.
