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I do know a few people who have been disowned for being LGBTQ.
I think it's easy to say one would never disown a child, but each situation is unique. My aunt and uncle disowned my cousin who has an Antisocial Personality Disorder also known as a sociopath. For years he would steal anything and everything from them, his siblings, grandparents, he would manipulate friends of the family making up lies about everyone. He cost them jobs, and broke their hearts multiple times over, they were also terrified of him. They sought out much help for him, but ultimately decided for their own safety and for the health and safety of the family to legally disown him. My grandfather remained in touch with him, and a trust for him that he would be eligible for if he sought out professional help, and succeeded in furthering his education. He was unable to do either. The last anyone heard of him was over 10 years ago, and he was serving a long jail term. I know the whole situation still breaks my aunt's heart.
You never know what is really going on in a family, unless you are living in it. Don't judge people's' actions from the outside, because you don't know what may have caused their action. There are scenarios that can occur in a family that are so horrific that people simply cannot reveal the reasons for their decisions to separate themselves from a child.
Unconditional love, something that all parents should have for their kids, is love they have for their child regardless of the behavior (any behavior). Misbehavior usually doesn't occur from a vacuum. There is usually an underlying medical, emotional, or psychological reason that triggers the behavior. So often as a society, we tend to throw people away because of their behavior without truly helping them understand why they chose to behave in that fashion. That is one reason why our prisons are overcrowded. Too much punishment, not enough rehab. One way to help someone overcome a problem is by providing unconditional love. Disowning your child should never, ever be considered regardless of the behavior!
I would never "disown" my children. If one committed a horrendous crime, I would absolutely call the police and assist the victim(s) in finding comfort/closure. But I would stand by my child's side and provide a listening ear and counsel to the very end. It's OK to hate the crime and love the person.
I would have said the same thing as recently as 18 months ago. There was no crime committed, no horrendous act on his behalf. He is a successful adult with his own family now. He chose to cut us out of his world, not the other way around. For the sake of my other children, and my spouse, he has been figuratively disowned. His share of our assets will go to his brothers. It doesn't mean we don't continue to love him, and want to have him in our lives, but he has made a different choice.
We love our children very much and they've always been good kids, but sometimes the hurt gets unbearable and w/o going into too many details, we came close (not easy seeing our little grandchild at fam. events and getting the cold shoulder and not knowing why, also we both had major health issues which were ignored, it still bothers me but time has faded a lot), it was a difficult time (an understatement). Anyway, time passed, we basically gave up (it was out of our hands anyway) and moved on (physically and literally) and eventually our child made contact, we met in a restaurant a couple of times and later met the gr.children (now there were 2). Ironically, we're in contact w/ that child more than we are w/ our others (no fault of anyone, it's just the way it is) and knock wood, things are really going well and hopefully will continue.
So true. That's my favorite thing to ponder when I have insomnia. I always fall asleep before I'm done.
That's so funny. Me too! Except im not happy with only 10 millions.
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