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Tell him to just lie about how big it actually is..........all of us guys do that anyway ! I tell my girlfriends I am on the metric system.....confuses them every time.
Cinderslipper: penises are inherited from the mother's side of the family (largely an X-linked trait) and so generally are not like dad's. Just thought I'd let ya know.
Cool. I did not know that!
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
Nila, he's 13. This isn't about openness, but age-appropriateness.
He's not worried about his motion in the ocean, just how his looks compared to the other boys who actually take off their underwear in the locker room.
It's much like the way girls have predetermined ideas about boob size. I wouldn't tell my 12-year-old daughter, "Don't worry, honey. Men like any view when you're on top! Size doesn't really matter!"
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I think it is not too early for him to have some accurate information, along with the inaccurate that he has been absorbing.
OF course, if his mom disagrees, I would wholeheartedly support her choice.
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Originally Posted by Hopes
I feel sorry for the boys who feel too uncomfortable to talk to their mothers. I'm guessing they would when asked, as if their ears were too delicate. Oh, please. They gave birth to children so that means they are extremely familiar with the male penis.
::laughing::
Last edited by Jaded; 08-30-2013 at 12:01 AM..
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Good grief - cannot the OP's husband deal with inquiries like this? I had a great relationship with my father, but I can't imagine talking to him about my private parts, other than saying I had cramps and needed an aspirin, or something else health-related.
Good grief - couldn't you be more secure and mature and talk with your father?!
OK - my good grief and outrage isn't real - I just don't get the dismissal and outrage that a son would talk to his mother about such things
Personally I wouldn't - but I don't like talking to anyone about anything .... I have my own set of nuance
However, I don't think it's a bad thing if a son talks to his mother about such things .... different strokes and what not, no harm done and if anything it will only help the son as he grows to have another trusted voice if he likes to reach out
It seems there should be some boundaries between between an opposite-sex parent and a child. Most people would agree that after a child reaches a certain age, the opposite-sex parent should wear clothing in the child's presence. This, IMO, is a similar modesty issue. It doesn't mean that the child shouldn't feel comfortable going to the parent with problems and questions. It is even possible to talk about sex and birth control in general terms without getting this graphic.
Body image issues aren't limited to girls, of course. But discussion of genital sizes seems graphic to me. It's not like a boy saying he's ashamed because he's not tall or heavily-muscled, or a girl saying she thinks she is overweight or not pretty.
And in this situation, it sounds as if the OP is married and that there is therefore a father in the boy's life. Dad would probably be able to provide more helpful feedback on this particular issue, anyway, because he actually has one of these appendages.
I don't know whether to be glad the son is comfortable enough to talk to his mom about, apparently, anything; or to be absolutely mortified. I think it is a little inappropriate. I have to wonder why the son didn't go to his father.
Last edited by Jaded; 08-30-2013 at 12:04 AM..
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Some of the things posters are suggesting seem a little graphic, at least for a 13 year old. Talking about porn stars' penises, talking about his parents sex life, talking about how to make girls orgasm? I don't think those are age appropriate discussions.
Some of the things posters are suggesting seem a little graphic, at least for a 13 year old. Talking about porn stars' penises, talking about his parents sex life, talking about how to make girls orgasm? I don't think those are age appropriate discussions.
I agree.
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I tell my girlfriends I am on the metric system.....confuses them every time. 
when asked, as if their ears were too delicate. Oh, please. They gave birth to children so that means they are extremely familiar with the male penis.