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19 = adult. My wife was 19 when she got pregnant. You either pull you **** together and do what it takes to raise the kids, or you don't. If you did your job and raised her right, then she should be able to step up and do what is necessary.
Our 8 year old is top of her class. I've been doing what it takes to keep up in the middle class since she got pregnant. She's been taking care of the kids.
Who watched her baby while she went to school? Most daycare centers don't allow sick children.
She and her husband both work, and go to school. They switch off on watching the baby based on who is home at the time. Obviously sometimes his parents watch him from time to time. My point was that just because they are having a baby doesn't mean all plans get put on hold.
She and her husband both work, and go to school. They switch off on watching the baby based on who is home at the time. Obviously sometimes his parents watch him from time to time. My point was that just because they are having a baby doesn't mean all plans get put on hold.
There is no guarantee that the OP's daughter will be living with the father of the baby. I do agree that not all plans need to be put on hold, but it will be significantly harder for her if she ends up a single parent.
19 = adult. My wife was 19 when she got pregnant. You either pull you **** together and do what it takes to raise the kids, or you don't. If you did your job and raised her right, then she should be able to step up and do what is necessary.
Our 8 year old is top of her class. I've been doing what it takes to keep up in the middle class since she got pregnant. She's been taking care of the kids.
Well this is more blunt than how I would have said it.
There's two choices. Abort, or start a family. Both can be good choices. Only your daughter can determine what the best choice is for her. She's 19 and should be able to reason with pros and cons.
I'm somewhat surprised that the OP doesn't trust her own parenting skills and feels she may have brought up an irresponsible child.
This is not a time for tough love. These things happen, ask your daughter what she expects and wants to happen. If she wants to stay at home, have the baby, and you are opposed to that, explain why.
I had my daughter get an Implanton, so this would not happen to me. I don't know why more parents don't do this. She can get another one in five years. No missed pills, or forget the condom...
Please talk to your daughter about the possibility of a special needs child. Four friends of mine had children in their teens and two of the four moms had special needs children. One was born "healthy" and then was diagnosed with a neurological disorder. He is 16 now and has spent his life in a wheelchair. He doesn't speak, is not toilet trained and needs a tremendous amount of care. My other friend had two autistic children (she had them at 19 and 20) and was completely overwhelmed to say the least.
I had my oldest at 22. He was born with a heart defect that finally closed when he was 3. I spent the first year of his life in and out of hospitals.
My second child had asthma and had us up all night, driving to the ER sometimes a few times a month in the middle of the night. I'd get home at 5am and then have to be at work at 9am. No sleep those nights!
Sometimes teens have an unrealistic view of parenting.
A child, whether special needs or not can put even the best relationships/marriages to the test.
FWIW, you might want to consider asking the extended family on both sides if they are able to help out. (Either of the new parents' uncles, aunts, etc). Just putting it out there as an option.
That's unfair. Most 19 year olds aren't mature enough to be parents.
And the reason for that is failed parenting. So I'm not certain that these same parents think they know what's best for another adult.
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