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I can only offer my perspective from having been a kid once, rather than being a parent. Basically, it all comes down to adult supervision. Children should not have the opportunity to watch this stuff. Parents have a responsibility to their children to supervise them and their activities so that they do not get into trouble. Part of the problem that we are having with DRUGS in this country stems from the same issue. Lack of parental/adult supervision.
Whenever I bring this topic up invariably someone has to make the comment that "it is impossible to supervise a child 24/7". That is just a big fat cop-out. Of course you can, if you CARE ENOUGH about them to ensure that they do not get into situations where drugs and/or porn can affect the quality of their life. I know from personal experience (both myself and other people), that children CAN be supervised 24/7 by an adult. I have personal acquaintances who do a very good job of it. Their children do not have televisions in their room, they do not "hang out" with friends unsupervised and they have parental controls installed on their smart phones to ensure that the family rules are not broken. Computer time is spent in the FAMILY ROOM with other family members in attendance, not in their bedroom. (And computer time is almost exclusively for homework activities NOT game playing and facebook).
The bottom line is, and always has been, and always WILL be, you have to make the rules and decide WHO IS THE PARENT and who is in charge. If you let the children be in charge they will make choices based upon inexperience and bad judgment. That's why it is a parents NUMBER one duty to ensure the health, welfare and happiness of their children at all times. Even if that means that they are personally inconvenienced by having to supervise their own kids so that they do not get into trouble.
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20yrsinBranson
Last edited by Jaded; 10-02-2013 at 09:17 AM..
Reason: Flaming
I can only offer my perspective from having been a kid once, rather than being a parent. Basically, it all comes down to adult supervision. Children should not have the opportunity to watch this stuff. Parents have a responsibility to their children to supervise them and their activities so that they do not get into trouble. Part of the problem that we are having with DRUGS in this country stems from the same issue. Lack of parental/adult supervision.
Whenever I bring this topic up invariably someone has to make the comment that "it is impossible to supervise a child 24/7". That is just a big fat cop-out. Of course you can, if you CARE ENOUGH about them to ensure that they do not get into situations where drugs and/or porn can affect the quality of their life. I know from personal experience (both myself and other people), that children CAN be supervised 24/7 by an adult. I have personal acquaintances who do a very good job of it. Their children do not have televisions in their room, they do not "hang out" with friends unsupervised and they have parental controls installed on their smart phones to ensure that the family rules are not broken. Computer time is spent in the FAMILY ROOM with other family members in attendance, not in their bedroom. (And computer time is almost exclusively for homework activities NOT game playing and facebook).
The bottom line is, and always has been, and always WILL be, you have to make the rules and decide WHO IS THE PARENT and who is in charge. If you let the children be in charge they will make choices based upon inexperience and bad judgment. That's why it is a parents NUMBER one duty to ensure the health, welfare and happiness of their children at all times. Even if that means that they are personally inconvenienced by having to supervise their own kids so that they do not get into trouble.
20yrsinBranson
Well bully for your friends. You are not a parent, so you are providing nothing but hearsay and judgment.
At some point, kids have to be responsible for their own choices. I am not a fan of porn, I think it's stupid actually. But I don't think it's necessarily the end of the world if a kid catches a glimpse of it. My hope would be that they have real world interests to keep them busy. If they spent all free hours surfing the internet, the problem is bigger than porn.
I can only offer my perspective from having been a kid once, rather than being a parent. Basically, it all comes down to adult supervision. Children should not have the opportunity to watch this stuff. Parents have a responsibility to their children to supervise them and their activities so that they do not get into trouble. Part of the problem that we are having with DRUGS in this country stems from the same issue. Lack of parental/adult supervision.
Whenever I bring this topic up invariably someone has to make the comment that "it is impossible to supervise a child 24/7". That is just a big fat cop-out. Of course you can, if you CARE ENOUGH about them to ensure that they do not get into situations where drugs and/or porn can affect the quality of their life. I know from personal experience (both myself and other people), that children CAN be supervised 24/7 by an adult. I have personal acquaintances who do a very good job of it. Their children do not have televisions in their room, they do not "hang out" with friends unsupervised and they have parental controls installed on their smart phones to ensure that the family rules are not broken. Computer time is spent in the FAMILY ROOM with other family members in attendance, not in their bedroom. (And computer time is almost exclusively for homework activities NOT game playing and facebook).
The bottom line is, and always has been, and always WILL be, you have to make the rules and decide WHO IS THE PARENT and who is in charge. If you let the children be in charge they will make choices based upon inexperience and bad judgment. That's why it is a parents NUMBER one duty to ensure the health, welfare and happiness of their children at all times. Even if that means that they are personally inconvenienced by having to supervise their own kids so that they do not get into trouble.
The folks on here who don't think that porn is "that big a deal" really need to acquaint themselves with studies that have been done on the subject.
Watching porn (by young people) has been linked to inability to form normal intimacy relationships in subsequent years. It has been linked to psychological disorders including eating disorders, body dysmorphia, lack of self esteem and confidence. It also has been linked to more violent sexual behavior and other forms of deviant sexual behavior.
It's not "no big deal". Chances are if your children have watched it there has been some kind of negative impact which could result in serious behavior issues now or later in life.
The folks on here who don't think that porn is "that big a deal" really need to acquaint themselves with studies that have been done on the subject.
Watching porn (by young people) has been linked to inability to form normal intimacy relationships in subsequent years. It has been linked to psychological disorders including eating disorders, body dysmorphia, lack of self esteem and confidence. It also has been linked to more violent sexual behavior and other forms of deviant sexual behavior.
It's not "no big deal". Chances are if your children have watched it there has been some kind of negative impact which could result in serious behavior issues now or later in life.
20yrsinBranosn
Wow...I love teh Interwebzzz and it's Interweb people. SO funny, so challenged in so many ways. It's like a show.
I watched porn as a kid. My friends did too. I turned out pretty darned good and well adjusted, the few friends I know of who watched it aren't in prison either.
Watching porn is linked to intimacy issues? That's called a correlation, which isn't causation - that's a basic statistical principle that you can look up. Watching porn as a kid can probably be linked/correlated to all sorts of things.
I'm gonna swing to the right on this one - parents...let your kids watch porn. It'll help them be good in the sack and satisfy their partners.
I can only offer my perspective from having been a kid once, rather than being a parent. Basically, it all comes down to adult supervision. Children should not have the opportunity to watch this stuff. Parents have a responsibility to their children to supervise them and their activities so that they do not get into trouble. Part of the problem that we are having with DRUGS in this country stems from the same issue. Lack of parental/adult supervision.
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Whenever I bring this topic up invariably someone has to make the comment that "it is impossible to supervise a child 24/7". That is just a big fat cop-out. Of course you can, if you CARE ENOUGH about them to ensure that they do not get into situations where drugs and/or porn can affect the quality of their life. I know from personal experience (both myself and other people), that children CAN be supervised 24/7 by an adult.
Wow! I hope that you misspoke when talking stating that children can be supervised 24/7. I suppose you were home schooled and didn't go to sleepovers. When it came to parties, playing outside, spending time with friends, and going on dates your parents were right there watching you.
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The bottom line is, and always has been, and always WILL be, you have to make the rules and decide WHO IS THE PARENT and who is in charge. If you let the children be in charge they will make choices based upon inexperience and bad judgment. That's why it is a parents NUMBER one duty to ensure the health, welfare and happiness of their children at all times. Even if that means that they are personally inconvenienced by having to supervise their own kids so that they do not get into trouble.
No one is talking about letting children run the household. It's quite possible to give your children some freedom. If a child is taught to fear the consequences, then they won't do it.
Smoking gives you lung cancer - I don't smoke
Drinking leads to inhibit your judgement, bad behavior, vomiting, DUIs, etc. - I don't drink
Drugs harm the development of your body, inhibit your judgement, and make you ugly - I don't use drugs
Pre-marital sex can lead to pregnancy and/or STDs, as well as emotional damage - I'm abstinent
Sexting can lead to images being spread all of the world - I don't sext
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Last edited by Jaded; 10-02-2013 at 09:14 AM..
Reason: Flaming
I can only offer my perspective from having been a kid once, rather than being a parent. Basically, it all comes down to adult supervision. Children should not have the opportunity to watch this stuff. Parents have a responsibility to their children to supervise them and their activities so that they do not get into trouble. Part of the problem that we are having with DRUGS in this country stems from the same issue. Lack of parental/adult supervision.
Whenever I bring this topic up invariably someone has to make the comment that "it is impossible to supervise a child 24/7". That is just a big fat cop-out. Of course you can, if you CARE ENOUGH about them to ensure that they do not get into situations where drugs and/or porn can affect the quality of their life. I know from personal experience (both myself and other people), that children CAN be supervised 24/7 by an adult. I have personal acquaintances who do a very good job of it. Their children do not have televisions in their room, they do not "hang out" with friends unsupervised and they have parental controls installed on their smart phones to ensure that the family rules are not broken. Computer time is spent in the FAMILY ROOM with other family members in attendance, not in their bedroom. (And computer time is almost exclusively for homework activities NOT game playing and facebook).
The bottom line is, and always has been, and always WILL be, you have to make the rules and decide WHO IS THE PARENT and who is in charge. If you let the children be in charge they will make choices based upon inexperience and bad judgment. That's why it is a parents NUMBER one duty to ensure the health, welfare and happiness of their children at all times. Even if that means that they are personally inconvenienced by having to supervise their own kids so that they do not get into trouble.
20yrsinBranson
Supervising your child(ren) 24/7 is not being a good parent. Thats being a pretty bad parent actually.
As for porn, its really no big deal. I don't worry about my daughter getting weird ideas about body image, she knows what a normal woman looks like (unlike porn stars) and watching porn hasn't led to intimacy issues or anything like that in anyone I know.
I can only offer my perspective from having been a kid once, rather than being a parent. Basically, it all comes down to adult supervision. Children should not have the opportunity to watch this stuff. Parents have a responsibility to their children to supervise them and their activities so that they do not get into trouble. Part of the problem that we are having with DRUGS in this country stems from the same issue. Lack of parental/adult supervision.
Whenever I bring this topic up invariably someone has to make the comment that "it is impossible to supervise a child 24/7". That is just a big fat cop-out. Of course you can, if you CARE ENOUGH about them to ensure that they do not get into situations where drugs and/or porn can affect the quality of their life. I know from personal experience (both myself and other people), that children CAN be supervised 24/7 by an adult. I have personal acquaintances who do a very good job of it. Their children do not have televisions in their room, they do not "hang out" with friends unsupervised and they have parental controls installed on their smart phones to ensure that the family rules are not broken. Computer time is spent in the FAMILY ROOM with other family members in attendance, not in their bedroom. (And computer time is almost exclusively for homework activities NOT game playing and facebook).
The bottom line is, and always has been, and always WILL be, you have to make the rules and decide WHO IS THE PARENT and who is in charge. If you let the children be in charge they will make choices based upon inexperience and bad judgment. That's why it is a parents NUMBER one duty to ensure the health, welfare and happiness of their children at all times. Even if that means that they are personally inconvenienced by having to supervise their own kids so that they do not get into trouble.
20yrsinBranson
WOW it's so simple! Why did I not realize that this is all I have to do??
I think parents realize that this current generation of kids has no escape from exposure to pornography. But what parents remain naive about is the extreme nature of said pornography. I think they remember the material that was available when they first discovered porn and think that is comparable to what kids are exposed to now.
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