My Kids Misbehave in School...Looking for Advice

[nana053]

Originally Posted by longnecker

My son attended a local middle school Academy he just didn't want to do the work. Never took his mother and I seriously when we said if he failed he would be back in the district middle school. Guess what!! He learned to take us seriously and thrived in the district middle and high school.

Perhaps he wanted to be in the district middle school especially if he thrived in those schools after being taken out of the private one.

[nana053]

Asperger's syndrome can be difficult and the kids require a different approach to discipline.

My Aspergers Child: How to Discipline Aspergers Children

Also, though, he may have difficulties with his academics for many reasons. Though many of our asperger's children are very bright, they can have specific problems that lead to not getting the work done and not understanding the work in school.

The advice about a good neurological workup is right on. My granddaughter turned out to have vision problems that had nothing to do with the normal things that are tested for. She has been doing a vision therapy program for about a year and her reading has improved remarkably.

[Joe the Photog]

We have read up on AS and talked at length with various counselors and doctors. We didn't just find out he has this and say, Oh, well" and go from there. We are patient with him, but we also feel that we can't go overboard glossing over his behaviour because no one else in his life will. He lies very consistently over minor, inconsequential things. This does not seem to be AS-related. He needs to be taught to get out of that, right?

[GotHereQuickAsICould]

Originally Posted by Joe the Photog

We have read up on AS and talked at length with various counselors and doctors. We didn't just find out he has this and say, Oh, well" and go from there. We are patient with him, but we also feel that we can't go overboard glossing over his behaviour because no one else in his life will. He lies very consistently over minor, inconsequential things. This does not seem to be AS-related. He needs to be taught to get out of that, right?

Talking at length with counselors and doctors is helpful in learning more about they think your child's diagnosis is and what approaches have been effective with similar kids. But a good neuro workup will pinpoint specifics about the way his brain works that will be helpful in developing a plan to deal with your child's behavior.

There is no need to gloss over your child's behavior. "He's autistic," won't carry any weight in the world. Plus many people with a diagnosis of autism don't have problems with the telling the truth. In fact, it is usually just the opposite.

If your child is lying about minor, inconsequential matters something is going on that you haven't figured out yet. Simply pitching out electronic devices isn't going to solve that.