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-We don't keep score at sports. Why? Because we don't want to hurt the other teams feelings. Give me a break! (p.s. the kids actually love to keep score)
This is an old post but had to comment: Modern sport leagues don't keep score for young children because it creates systems where volunteer parent-coach's feel pressure to win. This in turn creates situations where the best kids are on all the time, the late bloomers never bloom becasue they're on the bench, and it all becomes "get the ball to big jimmy" rather than make an attempt yourself.
It has nothing to do with sparing feelings, the kids keep score in their head and that's fine. It's about how score keeping affects adults and a need for self-reflected glory. This why leagues actually have to make rules to make teams balanced in skill as some parents/coaches will want to a team of ringers, but a bunch of neighbourhood children intuitively know to put the two best kids on different teams.
I have not read every post, so I hope I'm not repeating. I raised 4 kids. My daughter was not at all interested in sports, and the three boys were all interested in different sports, some more than others. But my daughter was an avid reader, was in a choral group, and was a girl scout, so she did not just sit around and vegetate. You are right that your daughter should be exposed to different things, including sports, but it is better that she has input into what activities she is in.
Your daughter is young, so she does not need to be forced into classes or teams yet, but start letting her know that she will be expected to be a participator, and not just a bystander, because you want her to be a well rounded person. This can take many forms. By the time a child is in middle school, though, I think is very important for them to participate in something that wears them out and keeps them busy...just like if you don't give a puppy something to chew on, you might not like what they choose on their own.
With my kids, we expected everyone to have one activity and to see it through the season. If they truly didn't like it then they were free to choose something else. At the very least, they ended up knowing the basics of many different things.
The best kids in school were the ones who did sports, including me. Look, I know kids who were in sports when they were frickin' 3, and there's nothing wrong with that. If they don't have any sports, especially over the summer, then they're going to get negative influence from kids who don't do anything, their friends are going to be kids who don't play any sports (& smoke 420 because it's "cool") and she's not going to be friends with smarter kids who are generally the ones who played sports in the future, so when she needs help with her homework, she's not going to have many friends to help her. In sports groups, we always cared a lot about sports, and we could always rely on each other for help. Don't listen to your daughter that way. Just tell her what I said, and that you know what's best. I have an utter dislike for parents who think 5-year-olds are rational enough to make these major decisions.
Oh, please... sports aren't the end-all, be-all of life. Lots (if not most) people get by in life without sports. Let her choose something she wants to do... not what daddy's ego wants.
Oh, please... sports aren't the end-all, be-all of life. Lots (if not most) people get by in life without sports. Let her choose something she wants to do... not what daddy's ego wants.
it's not about that, oh my god. Read my post. I mean, i'm sure some dads are like that, but it means a lot more.
it's not about that, oh my god. Read my post. I mean, i'm sure some dads are like that, but it means a lot more.
It means they're not going to be one of the popular kids? They don't "get" to be friends with the jocks? There are worse things in life. Once you are out of high school no one is going to care who your friends were or if you played any sports. Thats not what matters in the real world. But if you want to think it is, then go right ahead and talk about your "glory days" to all your buddies for all eternity.
Oh wait, you're in high school still, aren't you? Well you'll find out the reality of life soon enough.
it's not about that, oh my god. Read my post. I mean, i'm sure some dads are like that, but it means a lot more.
Oh my god, it is about that. Read your post.
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