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Problem with this option is that she will miss the bus and walk to school in which the OP isn't comfortable with. (And I agree, I would be the same way!)
So, at what age would you trust your teen to walk to school? The concerns given aren't things that will go away over time; they will be present throughout this person's lifetime. Bad things can happen to anyone, anytime they are walking somewhere. At what point willl you trust your teen and empower them to make good choices?
So, at what age would you trust your teen to walk to school? The concerns given aren't things that will go away over time; they will be present throughout this person's lifetime. Bad things can happen to anyone, anytime they are walking somewhere. At what point willl you trust your teen and empower them to make good choices?
I did let her walk to make a point, even though I wasn't comfortable with it and would prefer it if she didn't have to do that. I think she has enough sense to be aware of her surroundings and not get in the car with a stranger and it was daylight in a busy area. I don't really want her catching a ride with another teenager who may not have much driving experience. I know that's coming, but I'd like to put it off for a year or two.
So, I do trust her to walk to school, but it's 3 miles, which is a 45-60 minute walk so I'd rather drive her or have her take the bus.
Next time she's depending on you to get her someplace that she cares about, take your time. Get there eventually, when you finish your hair, and makeup and whatever else you feel like doing before leaving.
When my kids have trouble getting out of bed and we have a hectic morning, I always tell them, "Hey, it seems like you are not getting enough sleep. Let's make sure you are in bed by 9pm. If you still have trouble getting up and about, we can push it back to 8:30pm. I really want to make sure you are getting enough sleep."
As much as they hate getting up early, they seem to REALLY hate going to bed early. This worked like a charm for me. However, I don't have girls and I know that's a WHOLE other battle.
When my kids have trouble getting out of bed and we have a hectic morning, I always tell them, "Hey, it seems like you are not getting enough sleep. Let's make sure you are in bed by 9pm. If you still have trouble getting up and about, we can push it back to 8:30pm. I really want to make sure you are getting enough sleep."
As much as they hate getting up early, they seem to REALLY hate going to bed early. This worked like a charm for me. However, I don't have girls and I know that's a WHOLE other battle.
Girls are individuals, just as boys are.
I've known some boys whose morning ritual can rival any given stereotype about girls. My daughter was the nightowl in my house and I never needed to tell my son to go to bed because he was most likely already there. They both hate to be late and got themselves up and ready for school without my interference from the time they were in about 4th grade.
Well, being a female and having four sisters, I remember MUCH more chaos in the morning than my boys cause. Makeup, clothes, hair, jewelry, etc. It was really a madhouse.
One of my sisters that was usually the late one used to say, "I would rather show up late looking good, than be on time and look a mess." (My poor long-suffering mother! )
Well, being a female and having four sisters, I remember MUCH more chaos in the morning than my boys cause. Makeup, clothes, hair, jewelry, etc. It was really a madhouse.
One of my sisters that was usually the late one used to say, "I would rather show up late looking good, than be on time and look a mess." (My poor long-suffering mother! )
Well, I'd guess that 5 boys, in this day and age with all the hair gel and cologne etc, all getting ready at the same time it might be just as chaotic. I was one of 2 girls and we never had that problem. It really comes down to the individual - some people are just more high maintenance than others.
Next time she's depending on you to get her someplace that she cares about, take your time. Get there eventually, when you finish your hair, and makeup and whatever else you feel like doing before leaving.
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Originally Posted by convextech
^^^^^^ THIS!!!!! Like before a movie where she has to be there at a certain time.
This may show her how it feels.
Also, unless you have a very, very flexible and understanding boss all of those 10 to 15 minutes late could result in you being fired. In fact for the majority of jobs you probably would already have been fired.
If your daughter follows your example and starts a job at a fast food place, in retail or an office with that attitude (oh well, I'm only 15 minutes late) she wouldn't last a week. So, consider what type of example you are setting for her.
I know parents who have used the three alarm clock system (going off 5 minutes apart, spaced farther and farther away from the bed). That puts more of the responsibility on her to get up on time.
Also, unless you have a very, very flexible and understanding boss all of those 10 to 15 minutes late could result in you being fired. In fact for the majority of jobs you probably would already have been fired.
If your daughter follows your example and starts a job at a fast food place, in retail or an office with that attitude (oh well, I'm only 15 minutes late) she wouldn't last a week. So, consider what type of example you are setting for her.
I know parents who have used the three alarm clock system (going off 5 minutes apart, spaced farther and farther away from the bed). That puts more of the responsibility on her to get up on time.
That's a very good point. I'm not going to be fired for being late, but it could be an issue in another setting.
When she wants/needs to be somewhere, she makes sure to get ready on time. I'll take my time the next time she's anxious to go.
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