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A Connecticut couple came home from a weekend away to find their 15 and 16 y/o daughters hosting their third party of the weekend that included alcohol. The parents decided to call the police and their two daughters were both charged with permitting alcohol to minors.
I can understand that the parents may have trying to prevent liability against them, since a few weeks earlier two parents were arrested for having something similar happen at their home. But I feel a lot of this is the parents fault for not having someone check up on girls of this age while being gone an entire weekend.
If it was my girls, I would have first contacted the parents of all the kids to come pick them up, then I would have expelled the worst punishment I could on the two offenders. Not sure if I would have wanted the police involved, but then again, the liability issue comes up, especially if a DUI with a fatality was involved later.
No word on who bought the alcohol. So what you would do as parents?
I would have checks in place to where this wouldn't be possible and if I came home to the people in charge allowing it or slacking off and having it happen I'd do the same thing but all would be charged.
I would have called the police as well and had them all charged with trespassing and whatever else they could be charged with and let the police call their respective parents and deal with them.
After that both girls would have 24 hour supervision until they turned 18 and they would be working around the house paying for any damage that was done as well as all privileges taken away. No cell phones, ipads, computers, telephone at home, vehicle use, etc.
Nothing would become their normal and they would be in the same room with their father or I the entire time they are home. I'm sure they will absolutely hate their lives for the next few years and probably hate me as their parent even more however, as their parent I accept that and we move on.
I would have called the police as well and had them all charged with trespassing and whatever else they could be charged with and let the police call their respective parents and deal with them.
After that both girls would have 24 hour supervision until they turned 18 and they would be working around the house paying for any damage that was done as well as all privileges taken away. No cell phones, ipads, computers, telephone at home, vehicle use, etc.
Nothing would become their normal and they would be in the same room with their father or I the entire time they are home. I'm sure they will absolutely hate their lives for the next few years and probably hate me as their parent even more however, as their parent I accept that and we move on.
You can't charge with that if they were invited to the house.
I think you need to know your kids. Some 15/16 year olds are responsible enough to be trusted for the weekend, some are not. But yeah, if I came home to that, I would have either: locked the teens in and called every single parent personally, or if it was a really large party, I would call the cops.
But I agree with Hopes, too. Unless you absolutely know that your kids can be trusted, you don't leave them home alone, unsupervised, with no one checking in with them (in person, at random, not calls to a cell phone), for a full weekend.
There are problems here....my kids would not have thought about throwing a party if I was gone. If I came home, if they had thrown a party, which they would not have dared to do anyway, but, the party would have been over, in a nanosecond.
Respect, and trust starts in the crib. If they don't listen to you when they are five years old,it is pretty much all over. Because it won't change.
Even if you take your kids with you, you shouldn't let them tell their friends nobody will be home. I know a family who went away for the weekend with their children, and their teenager's friends had parties in the house the entire time they were away on vacation. Now THAT was definitely breaking and entering and trespassing.
The daughters found out about it at school because everyone was talking about the parties at their house. They never did get to the bottom of who stole things. Oh, and there were used condoms in the parent's bedroom. How gross is that to have total strangers having sex in your bed? Well, maybe we can give them credit for using condoms. Geeze. Teenagers can be crazy. Some of them need more supervision than infants.
I know many parents who thought their children could be trusted when I wasn't anywhere near true. I call them head-in-sand parents. It's better to be safe than sorry with teenagers.
I think calling the police might be a bit much, really.
This. Possibly if there was trouble or complaints but otherwise it seems over the top to call the police.
Throwing parties when parents are away is what 15/16 year olds do so if you don't want them to do that then don't leave them home alone! Or at least not without someone checking up on them.
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