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Old 11-08-2013, 01:28 PM
 
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No, but having sit down dinners with the other person's family like it's a serious thing seems like too much to me. I certainly would never be allowed to do that nor would I want to.
Well, our dinners have always been of the sit down variety, and I find inviting the friends of my kids (male and female) to join us, is an excellent way to get to know them better.
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:40 PM
 
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No, but having sit down dinners with the other person's family like it's a serious thing seems like too much to me. I certainly would never be allowed to do that nor would I want to.
i went over to my girlfriend's house for lunch or dinner often. we started dating my freshmen year. so i was 14. i'm still great friends with her mother and step-father to this day. very nice people.

it's not very different from going over to your same-sex friends' houses for dinner. no one was thinking of it as being a "serious thing". it's just food, on a table, with someone's parents and siblings.
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:44 PM
 
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iit's not very different from going over to your same-sex friends' houses for dinner. no one was thinking of it as being a "serious thing". it's just food, on a table, with someone's parents and siblings.
It's completely different if it's with a same-sex friend's parents.
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:48 PM
 
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It's completely different if it's with a same-sex friend's parents.
How so?
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:52 PM
 
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How so?
At 15 or 16, kids are not so innocent anymore. If you bring a girl home, there's an expectation something is happening. I brought girls to my parents house at 16 but only in a mixed group of friends (like 3 male friends and 2 female ones). I would never bring just one girl there nor would my mother be fond of the idea.
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:52 PM
 
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So if your kid has a high school sweetheart type of relationship, you can't invite their first love over to dinner because they are not adults? This is a new one for me. Who deosn't want to get to know their child's first serious girlfriend/boyfriend? Hmm.
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:59 PM
 
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Basically, if my kid has a long term "in love/puppy love" thing going on I am totally going to have that kid over for dinner more than once. Even if I know first loves rarely last.

That kind of thing is not unusual at all were I am from. If two teens have been dating for a year or more, of course they know the partner's family well and have been to their home visiting with parents included more than once.

No worries.

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Old 11-08-2013, 02:02 PM
 
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College is not too late. Dating is not the only way to develop social skills, nor is it the only way to have female friends. And some of those dating "skills" learned in high school are not so healthy.

One does not have to have good "dating" skills to be able to find a lifelong partner as an adult. What is more important is your son's character. You want him to be responsible, honest, kind, faithful, gentle, . . . and when he is an adult, women will find that very attractive. He also will have more maturity to think about what kind of woman he wants to spend his life with, rather than what girl he wants to spend the evening with.
good response
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Old 11-08-2013, 02:09 PM
 
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What is the hurry?
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Old 11-08-2013, 02:38 PM
 
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Ive told my oldest son that he can start dating when he can start driving, so 16. I think that is young enough to still be included with your friends, group dates, prom, etc... but yet old enough to make better decisions about potential mates. Plus, he will be going to school, sports, after school activities, and working, so that really wont leave much time open to dating. I think college is a little late but middle school or 9th grade is way too early. Too many middle school kids worrying about dating now instead of school.
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