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A true relationship is based on trust. You are not going to be around your partner 24/7, and if a person believes they have to verify ANYTHING their partner has done, then you might as well not be in a relationship. And furthermore if a man feels the need to ask a woman for a paternity test, he might as well get ready to not be with her again, and if it is his, get ready to chuck out that child support, for a woman that is no longer with him.
If there are no secrets in a marriage - they wouldn't need a paternity test in the first place.
There should be no secrets. Because I truly believe that, I will not have secrets in my relationships. This is why doing a paternity test behind my womans knowledge will not happen. Instead, she will know way before we have any kids, that paternity tests will take place. Its pretty straight forward.
I know this aspect has been talked about in similar threads, but another reason you won't see mandatory paternity testing coming any time soon, is that not every guy is comfortable with giving up his DNA for whatever purpose....detection of crime, etc. I think there are plenty out there who really wouldn't trust the government to only use the samples for paternity testing alone.
There wouldn't be any reason to think that it also couldn't eventually be used to see if this dad had other kids out there he may have fathered.
A true relationship is based on trust. You are not going to be around your partner 24/7, and if a person believes they have to verify ANYTHING their partner has done, then you might as well not be in a relationship. And furthermore if a man feels the need to ask a woman for a paternity test, he might as well get ready to not be with her again, and if it is his, get ready to chuck out that child support, for a woman that is no longer with him.
Sadly, a man will be supporting that child even if it isn't his. Some men choose to do it, and some are forced to do it. But they all have to do it.
I know this aspect has been talked about in similar threads, but another reason you won't see mandatory paternity testing coming any time soon, is that not every guy is comfortable with giving up his DNA for whatever purpose....detection of crime, etc. I think there are plenty out there who really wouldn't trust the government to only use the samples for paternity testing alone.
There wouldn't be any reason to think that it also couldn't eventually be used to see if this dad had other kids out there he may have fathered.
There are many valid arguments as to why mandatory paternity testing wont happen, but it still doesn't mean it shouldn't happen.
A true relationship is based on trust. You are not going to be around your partner 24/7, and if a person believes they have to verify ANYTHING their partner has done, then you might as well not be in a relationship. And furthermore if a man feels the need to ask a woman for a paternity test, he might as well get ready to not be with her again, and if it is his, get ready to chuck out that child support, for a woman that is no longer with him.
Agreed.
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Originally Posted by Ascension2012
There should be no secrets. Because I truly believe that, I will not have secrets in my relationships. This is why doing a paternity test behind my womans knowledge will not happen. Instead, she will know way before we have any kids, that paternity tests will take place. Its pretty straight forward.
You are full of contradictions in logic that you seem to not see. It's funny.
Traditional belief is that every mans first born has closest physical resemblance to their father, more so than any kids that follow, for this very reason. No idea if that's true or not, but before DNA testing there had to be some way to try to make sense of it. What I do have an idea about however, is that based on research and studies 3-8% of men who are married with kids, are unknowingly raising children that aren't really theirs. SO a rough guesstimate would be anywhere between 6-14 million men raising some other dudes devil spawn, while often being robbed of an opportunity to pass on their own genes. 6-14 million men!!! What is really mind blowing to me, is that most women you ask, would tell you that if they found out few years down the line that the man they are married to wasn't the biological father of the child, they would not let the husband know, based on the "why rock the boat" principle. That part is really absurd and mind numbing to me.
IMO, DNA testing should be mandatory and officially stated on each infants birth certificate. Take all the guess work out of it and use facts not assumptions. If I had a penny for every man who says "I trust my wife, she would never step out on me", who is unknowingly raising some other dudes kids - Id be a very wealthy man. BTW, government will not under any circumstance fund any studies having to do with this topic, and last I read - the modern feminist movement was fighting to ban all DNA paternity testing altogether. That's all you really need to know.
And what really sucks about that is, even if the man finds out later that the kid is not his, if he's been taking care of the kid, he still is responsible financially for the a kid that's not eve HIS! The courts well still make him pay, althouh I read a story recently about a guy who was rasing a kid who thought was his, and tried to sue the biological father for the money he lost.
And don't tell you SO about it! When she comes to you with the great news that she is preganant, you can ask her with a straight face, who the father is.... That's how you play your hand right
Wow, that would be hilarious. I would love to see the look on the woman's face when the guy told her he had been neutered before they were married.
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