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We have 3 boys aged 6, 4 and 2. I believe my wife babies them too much. There's too much kissing, hugging and "I love you" for my taste to be honest. I'm afraid they will turn out girly and won't be able to deal with difficulties as the hard world hits them.
I like to keep a fine line of respect and make them understand I'm not their "buddy".
Besides, I suggested we get a nanny to take care of the hard work (bathing, dressing, feeding, etc) and she says there's no way she'll let someone else do that job for her. I mean, she works and takes care of them at the same time, I thought she would appreciate the idea.
I'm afraid one day they won't respect her over excessive attention.
That's appropriate given their ages. You'll see as they get older they'll probably start resisting so as not to "get embarrassed" in front of other people.
I'm afraid they will turn out girly and won't be able to deal with difficulties as the hard world hits them.
Hate to break this to you, but being "girly" has NOTHING to do with being able to deal with difficulties. Women deal with the "hard world" every.single.day.
What your sons may have problems with is having a father who seems to be stuck in 1952.
Are you sure? I notice that boys these days don't seem to have the same toughness we had when I was a child. Something must have changed.
I don't think kisses and "I love yous" are the culprit. I DO think that parents can react to strongly to injury or hurt feelings rather than modelling or play acting how the child could self soothe. I remember telling my about 6 year old after a minor boo boo, you know what? You don't actually HAVE to break out bawling every time you fall. He was baffled for a minute. Then was like, hey you are right!
That's appropriate given their ages. You'll see as they get older they'll probably start resisting so as not to "get embarrassed" in front of other people.
I hope so, they always run up to her and don't let her go as soon as she gets home.
What your sons may have problems with is having a father who seems to be stuck in 1952.
I know that respect and deference are out of fashion these days but I greatly appreciate it.
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