What do think of this remark? (stepmother, custody, divorced, wife)
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I was talking to my mom on the phone. Her cousin is remarried. He has custody of his children on the weekend. One of the child is special needs. She can not dress or feed herself. My relative dresses and undresses his daughter when he has her. Along with feeding her and other things. The wife said "I think he should let me do it, because mens shouldn't be changing girls."
I just wanted opinions, because I have my own opinion but my mom disagrees.
I was talking to my mom on the phone. Her cousin is remarried. He has custody of his children on the weekend. One of the child is special needs. She can not dress or feed herself. My relative dresses and undresses his daughter when he has her. Along with feeding her and other things. The wife said "I think he should let me do it, because mens shouldn't be changing girls."
I just wanted opinions, because I have my own opinion but my mom disagrees.
Yes, it is totally acceptable for a biological father to assist his handicapped daughter in feeding, dressing, toileting and other daily living skills. If his new wife is capable of assisting her husband's daughter and trained in proper procedures (if necessary) AND she and her husband agree than she can help with care as well.
Last edited by germaine2626; 04-19-2014 at 08:17 PM..
I was talking to my mom on the phone. Her cousin is remarried. He has custody of his children on the weekend. One of the child is special needs. She can not dress or feed herself. My relative dresses and undresses his daughter when he has her. Along with feeding her and other things. The wife said "I think he should let me do it, because mens shouldn't be changing girls."
I just wanted opinions, because I have my own opinion but my mom disagrees.
Now that I think about it....this is a tad confusing. To clarify - The father of the girl is remarried, has custody on weekends.....and it's not the girl's mother who is saying this....but his second wife who is not the girl's mother?
I don't see any reason the second wife cannot help him but as far as I see it is completely appropriate for this child's father to do what he has been doing all of her life.
Now that I think about it....this is a tad confusing. To clarify - The father of the girl is remarried, has custody on weekends.....and it's not the girl's mother who is saying this....but his second wife who is not the girl's mother?
Depending on the child's age and her level of mental functioning, she may get to a stage where she's embarrassed to have her dad helping her. In that case, it's nice that the stepmother is willing to help the child.
I don't think anything's wrong with the dad taking care of the child, though. One would assume he was single for a while after his divorce and before he remarried, and he must have been taking are of her then.
Depending on the child's age and her level of mental functioning, she may get to a stage where she's embarrassed to have her dad helping her. In that case, it's nice that the stepmother is willing to help the child.
I don't think anything's wrong with the dad taking care of the child, though. One would assume he was single for a while after his divorce and before he remarried, and he must have been taking are of her then.
I agree with this. While the stepmother's reasoning is odd, it's wonderful that she is willing to help care for the girl. There's no reason to make a big deal out of what she said, the important thing is that the child is well cared for while she's with her father.
Of course a father can take care of a daughter, just as a mother can take care of a son. To think otherwise is silly.
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