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Old 12-09-2007, 08:47 PM
 
Location: Jonquil City (aka Smyrna) Georgia- by Atlanta
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At six, I found a good whipping with a paddle or belt usually clears up any behaviour issues. Kids have tantrums in an attempt to control adults or to force adults into doing something the child desires. If you get the belt and show the kid who the boss really is, he will not use that method anymore. At least that has been my experience with mine. One of my boys tried the tantrum method a few times but one Sunday when he decided he didn;t want to get dressed for church, I took out the paddle and used it on his behind. That ended the problem.
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Old 12-09-2007, 09:04 PM
 
Location: Mass.
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you are kidding me right??
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Old 12-10-2007, 05:25 AM
 
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Thanks everyone for responding. I appreciate your support!
Nicolepsy...I think you're right...he was tired.
Kuan...you hit the nail on the head...misplaced expectations and thinking that he should be the one to bust open the pinata was right on.
Marlow...very intuitive response. I totally agree. Same with cdc's response. And next year we will not have a pinata. He gets too territorial with it.
As for hitting my child with a belt or with anything else, I choose to use my mind and intellectual abilities to parent, not physical intimidation or physical dominance. I can not fathom hitting my child.
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Old 12-10-2007, 06:22 AM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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At six, I found a good whipping with a paddle or belt usually clears up any behaviour issues. Kids have tantrums in an attempt to control adults or to force adults into doing something the child desires. If you get the belt and show the kid who the boss really is, he will not use that method anymore. At least that has been my experience with mine. One of my boys tried the tantrum method a few times but one Sunday when he decided he didn;t want to get dressed for church, I took out the paddle and used it on his behind. That ended the problem.
My parents did the same thing; I can't remember my brother or I ever throwing a tantrum. They probably beat it out of us pretty early on. We never would have gotten away with what the OP's kid did; as soon as those kids were out the door, we'd have had one last chance to chill out while dad or mom counted to ten.

We turned out fine, by the way.
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Old 12-10-2007, 06:34 AM
 
Location: huh?
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but there are so many other/better ways to deal with such behavior other than a belt. belt=not good!
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Any such behaviour from mine would not have lasted 20 minutes. It would have lasted about 20 seconds- until he saw the belt coming off.
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Old 12-10-2007, 06:38 AM
 
Location: huh?
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kids can also have tantrums because of other reasons. i dont think it is to control adults or force adults. i think if you teach the child that no negative displays of emotion will be tolerated then they will grow up having trouble displaying other kinds of emotion including positive ones. kids dont have the self discipline yet to control their behavior. give them a bit of a break will you?
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At six, I found a good whipping with a paddle or belt usually clears up any behaviour issues. Kids have tantrums in an attempt to control adults or to force adults into doing something the child desires. If you get the belt and show the kid who the boss really is, he will not use that method anymore. At least that has been my experience with mine. One of my boys tried the tantrum method a few times but one Sunday when he decided he didn;t want to get dressed for church, I took out the paddle and used it on his behind. That ended the problem.
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Old 12-10-2007, 07:21 AM
 
Location: In the sunshine on a ship with a plank
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Since any kind of corporal punishment would be fruitless at this point since it's a few days later, I have an idea that might help him to realize that there are consequences for his behavior.

I know at 6 his writing skills are minimal- but maybe ask him to write a note to each of the families (it's only two so not to big of a job) apologizing for his behavior and thanking them for coming to his party.

And mine is a teen so I forget where he was with writing at that age- if it's just not possible, maybe you need to take him to visit each of those families to personally/verbally apologize and say thank you.

It would be a little uncomfortable and embarassing for him but he will learn an important lesson.
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Old 12-10-2007, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Assisi, Italy
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He was tired, sugared up and disappointed. Do not miss the opportunity to explain the consequences of these evil combinations to him.
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Old 12-10-2007, 10:19 AM
 
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At six, I found a good whipping with a paddle or belt usually clears up any behaviour issues. Kids have tantrums in an attempt to control adults or to force adults into doing something the child desires. If you get the belt and show the kid who the boss really is, he will not use that method anymore. At least that has been my experience with mine. One of my boys tried the tantrum method a few times but one Sunday when he decided he didn;t want to get dressed for church, I took out the paddle and used it on his behind. That ended the problem.
Must be prefaced with, "I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT."

Poor little guy was worn out. I like the writing little apology notes idea. Express yourself, but know there are consequences if it is inappropriate.
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Old 12-11-2007, 12:23 AM
 
Location: Michigan
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As for hitting my child with a belt or with anything else, I choose to use my mind and intellectual abilities to parent, not physical intimidation or physical dominance. I can not fathom hitting my child.
Wow, and your 6-year-old has tantrums. Knock me over with a feather.
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