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They are of legal age, and decided to join a sugar dating site and date a person a couple decades older, and recieve cash allowances, extravagant presents, and go on vacations.
Would you be ok with this?
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Originally Posted by ScarletG
No, most parents don't want their children to be prostitutes. What the heck planet are you from...or are you just trolling?
This may be legal - but it's still prostitution...and I would really wonder where I went so wrong that she'd think this is a good idea or that this was her best option.
I would be appalled and worried for her safety and her future.
However, variations of his have been going on for some time. Typically, it is a woman who puts a doctor through med school and then gets left behind.
A young woman used our son as her own personal scholarship program/Sugar Daddy. She moved to another state to go to graduate school, then called him and said she couldn't live without him.
He quit college, quit his job and joined her. He spent the following years working two jobs to support them. He paid the rent, bought the groceries and gas, bought two cars so she'd have transportation, bought her a computer...
The plan was that he would go back to school once she graduated and had a decent job.
Instead, right before graduation she said that on second thought, he wasn't the one for her.
I would be appalled and worried for her safety and her future.
However, variations of his have been going on for some time. Typically, it is a woman who puts a doctor through med school and then gets left behind.
A young woman used our son as her own personal scholarship program/Sugar Daddy. She moved to another state to go to graduate school, then called him and said she couldn't live without him.
He quit college, quit his job and joined her. He spent the following years working two jobs to support them. He paid the rent, bought the groceries and gas, bought two cars so she'd have transportation, bought her a computer...
The plan was that he would go back to school once she graduated and had a decent job.
Instead, right before graduation she said that on second thought, he wasn't the one for her.
She had a graduate degree and very little debt.
He was left broke and broken-hearted.
What a sad story, GHQAIC. I hope that he tried to sue her to return his money.
Regarding the wives putting their spouses through medical/graduate/law school and then the husband dumps them, I think that it happens a lot more often then people realize.
I remember when my husband's boss, a well known attorney in our town, divorced his wife of over 25 years and then started dating girls who were less than or barely 25 themselves. Some of them almost had Gold Digger in neon flashing lights on their (mostly, improved by surgery) enormous chests but he didn't mind.
I have very mixed feelings about this. It is definitely a "thing" in the south, the local paper has covered it. I don't like the idea of anybody entering a relationship where the balance of power is tilted via money. But, some of these men must be as desperate for companionship, and yes, sex, as the girls are for cash. If they are both freely choosing to enter this type of agreement, then I think it should be legal to do so.
I searched for information where a sugar momma and a young man might likewise hookup, but found nothing that wasn't targeting gays. I guess that would fall under the title of escort service, instead of sugar momma, but the premise is the same.
Well, I'm a college student and I can say I know how to get a sugar daddy. Quite frankly, if I had student loan debt, I'd probably get one. I've considered it because there are a few things sitting in my Nordstrom online shopping bag that I'd like to get. I know of a few classmates who have a sugar daddy. Some have sex with them and some don't.
And if you find sex between a 20-something and an older gentleman is disgusting, you're in over your head.
It's plain old prostitution, and it's a huge problem among high school girls. My nephew was telling me a very sad story about a group of girls in his school who got caught up in this mess. Once the honeymoon phase was over and the sexual demands started, if the girls didn't oblige they were "punished" physically.
Well, I'm a college student and I can say I know how to get a sugar daddy. Quite frankly, if I had student loan debt, I'd probably get one. I've considered it because there are a few things sitting in my Nordstrom online shopping bag that I'd like to get. I know of a few classmates who have a sugar daddy. Some have sex with them and some don't.
And if you find sex between a 20-something and an older gentleman is disgusting, you're in over your head.
It's not the age difference....heck, I've dated men much older then me (and a few times a bit younger) myself. If it was a true, reciprocal relationship, based on mutual affection and respect....not a problem.
I just don't want my daughter to think that selling herself to anyone....no matter what age they are.....is the how she needs to be treated. She's not a piece of meat....and I hope to hell that she understands that.
Would everyone feel the same if it was the same significant age difference and the older spouse wasn't wealthy?
I'm not sure I'd care how old either of them were. I want my kids to find a true partner to share their lives with. I want them to have self esteem and respect for others that would prevent them from being on either side of this kind of relationship.
What a sad story, GHQAIC. I hope that he tried to sue her to return his money.
Regarding the wives putting their spouses through medical/graduate/law school and then the husband dumps them, I think that it happens a lot more often then people realize.
I remember when my husband's boss, a well known attorney in our town, divorced his wife of over 25 years and then started dating girls who were less than or barely 25 themselves. Some of them almost had Gold Digger in neon flashing lights on their (mostly, improved by surgery) enormous chests but he didn't mind.
It was beyond sad. There was no suing involve. It was a live-and-learn situation. But he didn't date for years after that. Which actually worked out as he focused on getting his degree and moving on with his life. But he is a great guy and this took a piece of his heart. He felt like such a chump.
She, however, married a well-to-do fellow within the year and posts on facebook about being happy as a clam. I haven't seen any posts for some time now. Either I've been defriended or her life has taken a turn for the worse.
I think the wives putting husbands through medical/graduate/law school then getting dumped happens more often than we think. With no fault divorces and alimony being seen as gold-digging, often the wife is left high and dry. Whatever financial compensation she gets doesn't make up for the years she's lost when she could have been getting an education herself.
The wife of 20-25 years getting dumped for a Sugar Baby happens a lot. However, in my experience, the Sugar Babies soon tire of their older paramours. Unless the guy has a ton of money, they leave before long.
Older wive are not nearly as worried about being called gold diggers and the splitting of the assets often means the husbands are no longer driving BMWs and so forth.
I've known several women whose husbands have wandered off only to beg to be taken back in. One was a doctor in our town who came back when he was dying of cancer. His new wife said she did not sign up for this. His first wife said fine, but first you sign everything over to me. Which he did.
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