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Originally Posted by pretty_queen
I need some help, I'm 15 and I want to be Emancipated. School get out in a week. I'll have a job then, my sister is 21 and will allow me to live with her I just need to know what I have to do to get emancipated. I'm very stressed out and have already been arrested for fighting my mom. I ran away and threatened to comment suicide. I really need some help. I very educated and it's my main goal to finish high school and go to collage but, it's hard with living with my mom.
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Suicide is not any kind of an answer for your pain. Believe me. At fifteen, things can seem very intense and it's easy to feel desperate and as if things will never get better, but please ride it out. Things WILL change, I promise you, and you won't be in such pain forever. Please talk with your school counselor about this, or with a trusted teacher, or a clergyman, or perhaps your big sister.
What is the main problem with your relationship with your mother? What leads to the clashes with her? Is she neglectful, or physically abusive? If it's mainly battles of words, keep your head down, focus on your summer job, don't rattle her cage and make a life for yourself in ways that won't make things worse. If you can live with your sister this summer or at least spend more time with her, that may allow things to simmer down.
Meanwhile, keep things as level and even as superficial as possible with your mother. Keep your room clean, get in on time, respect her curfews, don't hang out with problematic friends or acquaintances, avoid drinking and drugs, make a habit of reading books recommended by your English/ language arts teacher or local librarian (to help your vocabulary, writing ability, spelling, reading speed, and college preparation) and so on. Books are a great escape, are free for the borrowing at the library, and are very beneficial, so establish this habit right away. You can also find books that offer good tips about dealing with family and personal issues. Keep a diary or journal to blow off steam and perhaps gain insight into your options when you're stressed (diaries are daily, journals are not). If you play a musical instrument, pour some of your strong emotions into your playing.
Plan inexpensive summer activities which are productive and will both meet with your mother's approval and provide time for you two to be away from each other, if you constantly find yourselves in conflict. What about swimming? Biking?
And - if things settle down somewhat with your mother, so that you're not threatening to attack her or kill yourself (remember, this time will pass; keep reminding yourself of that), you might even want to make time to spend with her. Start with a movie or something similar so you won't have to talk much. Afterwards, if talking about what you've seen comes naturally, go for it. Offer to help her with grocery shopping. Surprise her by taking out the trash, running the vacuum, or doing the dishes. Ask her what it was like when she was fifteen. Show her some respect - she may surprise you by showing you some in return and you two may even find some common ground.
Best wishes to you. Please let us know how things turn out.
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