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Some boardgames are based around the concept of bluffing (using deception to advance your position). Poker is one well known game that bluffing is part of, and there are many others as well.
Would you play bluffing games with your kids?
Personally, this would make me uncomfortable. Being truthful and honest is very important to me, and I would like my children to be honest. I would not want to role model decepection, nor want to encourage them to be deceptive with others.
OP, the problem with your theory about truth and honesty is that you are not the parent of everyone your kids will meet.
I do not believe that sheltering/shielding kids helps them. It does nothing to prepare them for things they might encounter in life.
As a parent, I try to TEACH my kids the appropriate times for bluffing, the difference between playing board games and real life, and sportsmanship. I also teach them that people WILL lie to them and they need to know how to spot it and how to react to it.
They know that their father does things during Monopoly deals that he would never do in real life. But they also know he is still himself, he is still a good person, even though he tricked them into dealing him the last green property for two utilities. He also instructs them how to beat him next time. To me, that is opening their minds instead of closing them.
Of course I'd play bluffing games with them. Playing a game involving deception doesn't teach a child that its ok to be deceptive in real life. I try and model being truthful and honest in real life and playing bluffing games won't detract from that lesson.
Some boardgames are based around the concept of bluffing (using deception to advance your position). Poker is one well known game that bluffing is part of, and there are many others as well.
Would you play bluffing games with your kids?
Personally, this would make me uncomfortable. Being truthful and honest is very important to me, and I would like my children to be honest. I would not want to role model decepection, nor want to encourage them to be deceptive with others.
Curious for your thoughts.
If by the time your child is at a cognitive level to play a game such as poker or other games that require 'bluffing' (which when you think about it is pretty much every one...including tic-tac-toe....to varying degrees) and they can't figure out the difference between game strategy and lying, you've missed a few very important things long before this.
Some boardgames are based around the concept of bluffing (using deception to advance your position). Poker is one well known game that bluffing is part of, and there are many others as well.
Would you play bluffing games with your kids?
Personally, this would make me uncomfortable. Being truthful and honest is very important to me, and I would like my children to be honest. I would not want to role model decepection, nor want to encourage them to be deceptive with others.
Curious for your thoughts.
Yes, we do.
We do a lot of things in games that we don't do in real life. Gambling and not having compassion on your opponents are two things in particular that we don't practice in real life, but that we practice in games. I don't, for example, give my kids a do-over in checkers. I do, however, forgive people in real life and repair old relationships.
I hate lying and I don't like bluffing in real life. But I agree with others that kids need to know that there are a lot of fake things in the world. For example they know that "natural" on food packaging means essentially nothing, though it has meaning in other contexts. They both believed in Santa Claus in spite of my original intentions to keep winter holidays secular and nature-focused. (Long story short, I was naive.)
I also don't think kids learn deception from games. They learn it from other people.
Since my parents did not have me believing in Santa, an Easter Bunny or tooth fairy, I know there had to be many others who were also not led to believe the fantasies. Yes, I did a little of it with mine and also played bluffing games, but they were well aware they were games.
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