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It's not his reasoning I have such an issue with. It's the fact that he imposed it on us. People can think whatever they want in the privacy of their minds.
It would t have surprised me to see spittle forming in the side of his mouth, because he was acting crazy.
Do you think what he did and said was appropriate? Nothing in your post addresses the fact that he was talking to a ten year old. I actually pushed her behind me and he was bobbing around me to look in her face. ( not in a threatening way though)
I don't want this to devolve into a " what women are physically capable of doing"thread. A new thread on that would be totally fine.
Appropriate? No it wasn't.
I am glad he is not an owner of a sports team though.
I do think "people" overall are too sensitive nowadays. Let them say what they want and move on, unless you work for or do business with them. People should be able to say what they think and not be scared of public and media backlash because they have a different view depending on the subject of course.
There will always be some people who are racists, discriminate against religions, a society, and more. It will never be as you want it to be even in future generations. Prejudice is human nature. Some don't like blondes, brunettes, shorts, fat, colored, latino, asian, muscle heads, vegans, arabs, elderly, people who drive imports, southerners, new yorkers, etc.. It just goes on and on.
My 4 year old daughter..., and sometimes girls just want a boys toy, and sometimes boys just want a girl toy and that's all okay too." Walked away... So I just kinda balled the ugly proud cry in the store.. Never phased her and I didn't worry after that about her worrying about what people thought.
That is the nub of the matter. Your 4 year old daughter handled it and walked away. You were proud and you will NOT worry after that about her handling situations.
Mom I am proud of you for the way you raised your daughter. My bet is she can face anything life throws at her.
It's better to learn now than be caught off guard somewhere important.
My older daughter learned about it from her grandpa, who went on and on about how we had to have a son or we had to divorce so my husband could have a son with someone else. So we had to talk about it when she was three or four years old.
The thing that cracks me up about your daughter's grandfather is he doesn't realize it is the MALE who determines the sex of the child. Y'know, that whole XY vs XX chromosone dealie.
My Dad could never comprehend that concept, either. Everything that didn't go his way in life was always due to the fault and failings of women. :/
Not trying to be argumentative but one old crank in the train shop is nothing compared to what your daughter is going to face from her own gender over her junior high and highschool years......and beyond.
The face of racism, sexism etc. is changing in this country just like our own demographics.
Explain to her that there are people who are still convinced that the earth is flat. You just have to feel sorry for people that are that dumb. Let her know that you can't help them be smarter - just ignore them and move forward. People like that keep themselves back - and try to do the same to everyone.
Explain to her that there are people who are still convinced that the earth is flat. You just have to feel sorry for people that are that dumb. Let her know that you can't help them be smarter - just ignore them and move forward. People like that keep themselves back - and try to do the same to everyone.
@ the OP, I have no problem telling people off who wish to demean me for being female, biracial, gay, short, or anything else. I've had a tough life, and I've had to deal with a lot worse than rude comments, so if they want to spar, I'm ready to go anytime I've caught more than a few people off guard by standing up for myself. Maybe suggest something like that to your daughter. That can make her feel empowered and not like a victim.
It's better to learn now than be caught off guard somewhere important.
My older daughter learned about it from her grandpa, who went on and on about how we had to have a son or we had to divorce so my husband could have a son with someone else. So we had to talk about it when she was three or four years old.
Forgive me but your (I assume) father-in-law sounds like a real douchebag. I can only imagine how he treats you and your daughter.
Thankfully, everyday there are fewer and fewer of these knuckle-draggers.
I'm sorry that your daughter had to witness this first hand. One of my old psych professors had us do a project concerning 'isms'. We had to take pictures and write about what we saw. Attached is a picture that I found in Toys R Us that completely baffled me. As you can see, it is two tins of tinkertoys. I loved these as a kid. If you notice, the 'boys' tin has what looks like a robot and a ferris wheel in the picture. The 'girls' tin has what looks like a house. The kicker are the words written on the two different tins. For girls, there are phrases like "creative and educational", " Pink, Purple and green pieces inspire creative imaginations", and "Designed especially for girls". On the 'boy's' tin, all it says is "Durable plastic Pieces" and "Bright Colors". Even though both tins come with 200 pieces, the girls tin was 10 dollar less.
Construction type toys such as tinker toys, legos, erector sets, science sets, Lincoln logs, etc have always been geared towards boys. This picture was taken only a few years ago and it is truly sad that companies feel the need to separate out the children.
I hope your daughter enjoys the model and I hope she builds many more.
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I've caught more than a few people off guard by standing up for myself. Maybe suggest something like that to your daughter. That can make her feel empowered and not like a victim.
