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If this thread is for real, and I hope it's not, I'd send the kid to military school. Yesterday. I'm hoping this is a made up thread, but if it's not, you've raised a sociopath. (Although since you said this is a stepson, I don't know how much you've had to do with the raising of him, and he is not your genetic material, so he certainly didn't inherit it from you.) You cannot "counsel" a sociopath. Therapy just teaches them how to better conceal their sociopathic behavior, while continuing to harm people to get what they want. Be upfront with the school about what he has done, so that they will know exactly what they are dealing with. If you cannot afford military school (and this would be the sort of thing that you drain the college fund and mortgage the house to pay for), then get everything out of his room except a mattress on the floor, and two sets of clothing. Directly supervise him every minute that he is not in school or after school sports/activities (and you have to verify every day that he was there), so that he has no access to the means to exploit and harm other people. No phone, no computer, no nothing. This is not going to get better. YOU should get therapy, to help you deal with the grief over the realization that you/your husband have raised a sociopath. Have him get a job the day he turns 16, and take 90 percent of what he earns, leaving him just enough to keep him willing to work. Use it to make restitution to his victims, and let him know that you are doing this. If he objects, explain to him that no matter how smart he thinks he is, eventually he will get caught by the law if he exploits and harms other people, and will wind up in prison, and pay financial restitution, so he should just consider this as your effort to have him learn his lesson now, before he becomes a convicted felon.
I am so sorry for your trouble. As awful as this is, take comfort in the fact that he has not yet been arrested. It could have been worse.
Military school? Hell, I'd send him to law school!
So many people seem to find this funny. My husband thinks it is too. He actually asked stepson how many pornography sites he had to visit to keep getting all these pictures of "Lindell".
I don't find it funny or a joke AT ALL. I mean Jesus... I'm just shocked at the general responses I have gotten. But maybe this is normal for this day and age.
I'm 43, and I have never heard of such a thing before. Those who are laughing about it have obviously been desensitized to it, because apparently MTV made it funny.
I'm LMAO, and I've never heard of it. I think the OP has a creative imagination.
I'm LMAO, and I've never heard of it. I think the OP has a creative imagination.
Perhaps, you have never heard the term "catfishing" but I am pretty sure that you have heard about people lying about their identity either in person or on-line.
In 1980, the good looking guy that you (the generic "you", not specifically you -Hopes) met at a bar or a restaurant who said that his name was John Richman, who recently graduated from Harvard and owned his own company may have been an unemployed drifter. But, at least you could verify by sight that he was a actually a man, and you may be able to get more information by seeing his clothes, hearing his voice, observing his mannerisms and seeing his car or other things that he owned. And, he couldn't lie about his age and say that he was 23 when he actually had wrinkles and some grey hair, and looked more like 50 or 55.
Today, someone typing on a computer on a chat board or dating site could be anyone. A man thinks that he corresponding with a cute, sexy 30 year old woman and it turns out to be a 50 year old grandma, or a 20 year old man or a group of his "friends" playing a mean trick on him or anyone.
Harvard grad, John Richman could be anyone online. He could have taken photographs from someone else's website or blog or even a magazine ads.
I believe that the original "catfish" was a middle aged, bored, lonely mom who used the photographs of her very beautiful, sexy daughter to have an online romance with a young man. It was heartbreaking to the man who "fell in love" with this fictional person through the computer and phone calls.
BTW - I have a PhD from Harvard, am a Rhodes Scholar, own two private jets and a vineyard, am the lead ballerina for the London Ballet Company and still have time to write best selling spy novels. I'll add a photograph that I copied and pasted from someone's modeling portfolio and I'll probably have lots of men sending me gifts, too after they read my dating profile. Obviously, I made up all that information, but it is just as simple as doing a few keystrokes.
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Perhaps, you have never heard the term "catfishing" but I am pretty sure that you have heard about people lying about their identity either in person or on-line.
You're missing my main point: I don't believe the OP is real. She's a first time poster. Many things she said don't add up. But it was good for a laugh. It's one of the few times I literally laughed out loud while reading a post on CD.
IF (<<<big capitalized IF) it is true, the woman was an idiot for leaving her husband for a man she had never met in person. That's the most unbelievable part. Come on, not even coffee at Starbucks? She just up and dragged her kid to an unknown person's house to live with him. Right. She deserved it and she's darn lucky he was a pimply teenager living with his parents instead of a serial killer or pedophile after her kid. The OP's son did a public service teaching this grown women about stranger danger before she got herself and her child killed. Next time, she'll require that coffee at Starbucks.
You're missing my main point: I don't believe the OP is real. She's a first time poster. Many things she said don't add up. But it was good for a laugh. It's one of the few times I literally laughed out loud while reading a post on CD.
IF (<<<big capitalized IF) it is true, the woman was an idiot for leaving her husband for a man she had never met in person. That's the most unbelievable part. Come on, not even coffee at Starbucks? She just up and dragged her kid to an unknown person's house to live with him. Right. She deserved it and she's darn lucky he was a pimply teenager living with his parents instead of a serial killer or pedophile after her kid. The OP's son did a public service teaching this grown women about stranger danger before she got herself and her child killed. Next time, she'll require that coffee at Starbucks.
You are right. I missed your point.
But, real people do those crazy things.
I know a woman (mother of one of my students) who quit her job, sold all of her furniture & possessions (except for two suitcases full of clothes) and moved with her preschool child from Wisconsin to England to marry someone who she had never met in person. This was in the years after the start of online dating but before Skype, so she had never even seen him "live" just photographs. Luckily, for her he was real and was telling the truth. About five or six years later they moved back to our school district and were still married at that time.
Of course, there are many, many bad situations. Like the one in my town where the 14 year old girl got on the bus, traveled several hundred miles to see the 20 year old man that she fell in love with on line and he turned out to be a 50 year old pedophile (luckily, the police got to her before the man picked her up at the bus station).
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