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Old 11-13-2014, 08:59 AM
 
Location: NYC
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So true!! It amazes me how they are night and day. However, I wouldn't call one the 'perfect' child by any means. They both have their faults.
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Old 11-13-2014, 09:20 AM
 
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Just a warning... I was the perfect child until puberty.
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Old 11-13-2014, 11:31 AM
 
Location: Long Neck,De
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I agree, lots of nature involved.

My son took forever and every trick in the book to potty train. He was 3.5 when I finally got him trained. My daughter trained herself in one day when she was 2.

Took forever to train my son. Your daughter did it one day? I an jealous!!
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Old 11-13-2014, 01:06 PM
 
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My kids are 19 months apart so physically, they are the same height and weight and everyone thinks they are twins. We also have a little girl who is sort of a happy medium of the two. Yes, I totally believe that nature is far stronger than nurture!
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Old 11-13-2014, 02:28 PM
 
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Took forever to train my son. Your daughter did it one day? I an jealous!!
Yeah but it took over a year to train my son. I had to develop a potty fairy and go all in. I think part of it was she didn't like diapers or being dirty or wet, and she also saw me train her brother. Honestly, she asked me right before a trip and I asked her to wait until we got home from the trip (assuming it would be hell). When we got back I said "ok we can try now" gave her panties. I had to take her once, and she just did it on her own. If she was my first, I might have thought I was an amazing potty trainer.
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Old 11-13-2014, 04:09 PM
 
Location: My beloved Bluegrass
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I did - the four were on a continuum. The funny thing is that now that they are adults the "easiest one" is the one we are most concerned about some of the choices she is making now; the the one we spent the most time beating our heads against the wall over is the one we are the least concerned about. Some of the frustrating traits he had as a child have served him well in the adult world. Properly harnessed, a strong will can be an asset.
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Old 11-13-2014, 05:03 PM
 
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I did - the four were on a continuum. The funny thing is that now that they are adults the "easiest one" is the one we are most concerned about some of the choices she is making now; the the one we spent the most time beating our heads against the wall over is the one we are the least concerned about. Some of the frustrating traits he had as a child have served him well in the adult world. Properly harnessed, a strong will can be an asset.
I have known this to be a really common theme.
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Old 11-14-2014, 06:41 AM
 
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One of my kids is easy as pie. My husband and I secretly call him "the perfect child." The second one is... tough. He's always been defiant, argumentative, just overall hard to handle. I really think he has some form of ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). Do you have kids that are just polar opposites of each other?
Not really. Maybe, in their essence; but the second - who was a naturally easy-going, amenable child - learned all the defiance, attitude and button-pushing work from the first and currently she can be a nightmare. The first one matured a bit but not without serious intervention.
There. :-)
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Old 11-14-2014, 08:13 AM
 
Location: Long Neck,De
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I did - the four were on a continuum. The funny thing is that now that they are adults the "easiest one" is the one we are most concerned about some of the choices she is making now; the the one we spent the most time beating our heads against the wall over is the one we are the least concerned about. Some of the frustrating traits he had as a child have served him well in the adult world. Properly harnessed, a strong will can be an asset.
My son was a nightmare in Middle School. In High School he became a respected leader.
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Old 11-15-2014, 08:27 PM
 
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My son is a difficult child - more stubborn, strong-willed and defiant than anyone else in the family and then we ever could've imagined. He really took it out of us and we put off having a second for a few years. We're now expecting a second...and the big scary question is: will he or she be easy, or at least easiER - or will they make us think the first was the easy one?! LOL!
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