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I grew up in a culture where kids are constantly asked "Do you have a girlfriend?" "Have you got some?" etc, etc.
and then they wonder why they have kids when they are 15 years old.
I have three little boys and I don't want to raise them that way so I never ask them what girl they like or if they have girlfriends.
As you can imagine, my boys are very well behave and respectful.
I was visiting some people and a 15 year old girl was there and she was in love with my 9 year old
(He's tanned, curly brown hair with green eyes. He looks exactly like Adrian Grenier in this picture - Picture)
The girl kept on saying that she was in love with his eyes and kept on hugging him, kissing him and grabbing him while he kept on trying to get away and telling her to stop bothering him.
My 11-year-old got mad and kept on telling her to leave him alone.
She kept on going ... on and on and on and on ... to the point that her mom had to tell her to stop and finally she calmed down.
If a boy was acting that way with a girl.... everybody would go insane
Why is it acceptable for girls to act that way?
I don't think it's "acceptable" if they boy did not like this. And i don't think "society" views it as "acceptable." It appears to have been an isolated incident. The fact that mom finally attended to it is proof that it is not okay.
Boys usually mature after girls. I'm sure people saw this as "harmless" and "cute." Most heterosexual boys are not so affectionate to the opposite sex until, well... adulthood? Boys are taught to suppress affectionate emotions, especially in public.
And thank you for raising your children in such a responsible manner. I wish everyone would.
I grew up in a culture where kids are constantly asked "Do you have a girlfriend?" "Have you got some?" etc, etc.
and then they wonder why they have kids when they are 15 years old.
I have three little boys and I don't want to raise them that way so I never ask them what girl they like or if they have girlfriends.
As you can imagine, my boys are very well behave and respectful.
I was visiting some people and a 15 year old girl was there and she was in love with my 9 year old
(He's tanned, curly brown hair with green eyes. He looks exactly like Adrian Grenier in this picture - Picture)
The girl kept on saying that she was in love with his eyes and kept on hugging him, kissing him and grabbing him while he kept on trying to get away and telling her to stop bothering him.
My 11-year-old got mad and kept on telling her to leave him alone.
She kept on going ... on and on and on and on ... to the point that her mom had to tell her to stop and finally she calmed down.
If a boy was acting that way with a girl.... everybody would go insane
Why is it acceptable for girls to act that way?
Silly question , it is not acceptable for anyone to harrass anyone ever Hello
Our society and celebrity culture pushes sex on kids so much that it is sad. I say let kids be kids and when the time comes they will be interested in dating etc... I think it is terrific that you don't pressure your boys with this. I think what many people are afraid of is that little johny won't like girls at all and end up being gay. It is Silly to think like that but many people do think it odd if a boy doesn't have a girlfriend by a certain age.
There is a double standard in the world and if a 15 year old boy was in the same situation with a 9 year old girl like Dopo outlined then there would be a major problem.
Kids and sex is crazy, there is plenty of time for that later in life so please let the kids be kids for as long as they can.
There is a double standard in the world and if a 15 year old boy was in the same situation with a 9 year old girl like Dopo outlined then there would be a major problem.
That's my point and the reason it bothers me
People can say what they want ... but something similar to that happened to me when I was a kid and I know the effects that it has on a little kid.
Same way as you see what some teachers do and almost everybody goes "Way to go kid!!!'
Because generally, girls aren't able to overpower boys, so harassing in the manner you describe isn't seen as potentially threatening. Still, the mom should have stepped in sooner, or even better, the girl should have stopped when the boy told her to. That's the lesson she needs to learn.
I think in this situation, maybe because she's FIFTEEN and he's a little boy, at nine. So initially, it's a "grown up" being affectionate with a little kid. She didn't meant it sexually. He's a little kid to her. Especially at that age, the difference between 15 and nine is HUGE.
But obviously, if he was uncomfortable, she should have stopped.
I'm sorry, but I don't know anyone who would have found that acceptable. And while, when I was a kid some 25 years ago, I knew some older girls who thought my younger cousin was adorable, they were not so pushy with him or handsy with him as you are describing, and he was mostly flattered by the attention. He was thrilled to death to be a 10-year-old at a middle school dance dancing with 13-year-old girls. But if they'd made him uncomfortable, there'd have been hell to pay from my perspective.
This girl's behavior sounds bizarre, and I'm wondering why you didn't feel comfortable intervening sooner.
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