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Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Wash em' up, dry them off and send them to school.
And for goodness sake, have the sex talk and lay down your expectations before a pregnancy occurs. My eldest didn't like the lecture much, but felt comfortable enough to come to me when she initiated a more "advanced talk" (re: birth control and her need for it). I made her a doctor appt. immediately and got her on the contraception of her and her doctor's choice. The talks actually brought us closer together. I didn't like her decision to have sex at 16, but did what I could to protect her. "Pennies on the dollar".
She's 27 now, married and no babies. (But my fingers are crossed that they will some day)!
Regarding the current hospital bill: Your hospital should have a financial assistance program. You should fill out a form and either get the bill reduced or totally removed.
I want to believe you, but it's hard; but I'll put that aside and give you some advice and my opinion...
You have 3 options here:
A) Take her to get an abortion
B) Find a local adoption agency, and set up a meeting
C) Go online and read information about your state's government assistance programs (WIC, food stamps, etc.). Print out any necessary forms and go with her to the office.
FUTURE PARENTING ADVICE ON SEX (so that you won't screw up raising your other two kids):
Age 2 --> body parts "penis" and "vagina" (not wee-wee or vah-jay-jay)
Age 3 --> the "don't let anyone touch you" talk
Age 4-5 --> babies live in mommy's womb which is in her tummy
Age 6 --> sperm from daddy and egg from mommy makes baby
Age 7 -->puberty talk (what happens when someone of their sex goes through puberty)
Age 8 --> puberty talk (what happens when someone of the opposite sex goes through puberty)
Age 9-10 --> sex talk (penis enters vagina, define ejaculation, egg fertilization)
Age 11 --> sex talk #2 (STDs, condoms, define oral sex & masturbation)
Age 12-13 --> pornography talk (or whenever they start using the computer unsupervised) and consequences of having sex (emotional attachment, sl*t-shaming, etc.)
Age 14-18 --> constant communication btwn parent and child about sex
Things you need to do immediately:
-Notify the parent's of the child's father knows and let them know what choice you and your daughter are making
-Contact the hospital about financial assistance
-Get a condom and show her how to put it on using a banana or cucumber
-Get her an IUD (obviously when she's no longer pregnant)
-Get your income up (because you keep talking about how you can barely afford your 3 kids)
How the hell do you expect your child to not "screw up" when you as a mom haven't done your job correctly?
Like most ignorant parents of teen moms & dads, you rely on the school to teach your kid basic life skills, including sex education. Something tells me that you're a single mom and did the same damn thing (got pregnant unintentionally); but that's besides the point here.
Honestly, I think you need to get over it and realize that you as a parent failed your child by not educating her about sex. Sure, she knows penis+vagina can make a baby, but you wouldn't believe the myths that people believe (can't get pregnant on period, can't get pregnant first time, etc.).
ETA: Where is her father? Did you send him packing when he made a mistake or did your irrational decisions scare him away?
I'm making the decision as head of the house and I'm not willing to put myself and the rest of my family in jeopardy because of one persons mistake. I'm doing what's best for my children and keeping food in everyone's mouths. And what's best for my family is that she leaves. It's either her or us.
utter BS. thousands if not millions of parents with other children have dealt with a teenager's unplanned pregnancy. so it isn't "her or us", you are just done and want to throw up your hands. you have a responsibility to her until she is 18, mistake or not. be a parent.
Establish paternity and then the father's parents, if under 18, will be required to pay for his play, including medical bills until he is 18. Your local welfare program/child support enforcement will be able to establish paternity and support if the father and his parents don't cooperate. There is help available so don't panic. Can you sign her up for that obama care?
Depending on what state you live in once the baby is born your daughter is an emancipated minor and you have no legal responsibilities for her and you have none for the child no matter how old your daughter is.
Why don't you contact an attorney or child services and ask them what to do with her? Go after the boyfriend and his parents for support for the baby and his parents may be responsible for him financially depending on his age.
The boyfriend did not "get her pregnant", she participated and neglected to use birth control so they both are responsible for this pregnancy and both to blame not just the boyfriend.
+1. I don't think you are responsible for your daughter once she has the baby. Speak with a lawyer to be sure though.
Establish paternity and then the father's parents, if under 18, will be required to pay for his play, including medical bills until he is 18. Your local welfare program/child support enforcement will be able to establish paternity and support if the father and his parents don't cooperate. There is help available so don't panic. Can you sign her up for that obama care?
Have a 15 year old marry? Are you trolling as much as the OP?
Regarding the current hospital bill: Your hospital should have a financial assistance program. You should fill out a form and either get the bill reduced or totally removed.
I want to believe you, but it's hard; but I'll put that aside and give you some advice and my opinion...
You have 3 options here:
A) Take her to get an abortion
B) Find a local adoption agency, and set up a meeting
C) Go online and read information about your state's government assistance programs (WIC, food stamps, etc.). Print out any necessary forms and go with her to the office.
FUTURE PARENTING ADVICE ON SEX (so that you won't screw up raising your other two kids):
Age 2 --> body parts "penis" and "vagina" (not wee-wee or vah-jay-jay)
Age 3 --> the "don't let anyone touch you" talk
Age 4-5 --> babies live in mommy's womb which is in her tummy
Age 6 --> sperm from daddy and egg from mommy makes baby
Age 7 -->puberty talk (what happens when someone of their sex goes through puberty)
Age 8 --> puberty talk (what happens when someone of the opposite sex goes through puberty)
Age 9-10 --> sex talk (penis enters vagina, define ejaculation, egg fertilization)
Age 11 --> sex talk #2 (STDs, condoms, define oral sex & masturbation)
Age 12-13 --> pornography talk (or whenever they start using the computer unsupervised) and consequences of having sex (emotional attachment, sl*t-shaming, etc.)
Age 14-18 --> constant communication btwn parent and child about sex
Things you need to do immediately:
-Notify the parent's of the child's father knows and let them know what choice you and your daughter are making
-Contact the hospital about financial assistance
-Get a condom and show her how to put it on using a banana or cucumber
-Get her an IUD (obviously when she's no longer pregnant)
-Get your income up (because you keep talking about how you can barely afford your 3 kids)
How the hell do you expect your child to not "screw up" when you as a mom haven't done your job correctly?
Like most ignorant parents of teen moms & dads, you rely on the school to teach your kid basic life skills, including sex education. Something tells me that you're a single mom and did the same damn thing (got pregnant unintentionally); but that's besides the point here.
Honestly, I think you need to get over it and realize that you as a parent failed your child by not educating her about sex. Sure, she knows penis+vagina can make a baby, but you wouldn't believe the myths that people believe (can't get pregnant on period, can't get pregnant first time, etc.).
ETA: Where is her father? Did you send him packing when he made a mistake or did your irrational decisions scare him away?
your time table is way off for many kids. it is about the emotional and physical maturity for each child, there is no time table. You follow your child's lead
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